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They Feel Your Energy Before Your Words #addictionrecovery #addictionhelp

9 Jul 2026 · 1 min

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In this short monologue, Amber Hollingsworth emphasizes the importance of responding with empathy during conversations, especially in the context of addiction recovery. She advises listeners to reflect back what they hear rather than correcting or offering differing opinions, and to first assess the energy they bring into the interaction. Hollingsworth explains that a partner perceives one’s emotional state before any words are spoken, so entering a conversation with frustration or a combative mindset can shape the response negatively. By consciously shifting one’s own energy and adopting specific, immediate behavioral changes—such as reflective listening and energy self‑check—individuals can achieve markedly different, more positive communication outcomes.

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You got to respond with empathy. Reflect back what you're hearing. Now, this is not the time to share your differing opinion or correct the record. Just receive the information. Oh, and another pro tip, before you even get to the questions, check in with your own energy. What energy are you bringing to the conversation? Because even if you say all the right things, they can read your energy before you even say a word. If you walk in frustrated or bracing yourself for a fight or already convinced that it's going to go sideways, in fact, you're Your partner's responding to your energy before they're even responding to your words. It's all about the state you show up in before the conversation happens. When you change what you're bringing, you get something different back. This is what I mean when I say finding better ways to communicate your feelings isn't always the solution, but there are some actions you can take, some specific behaviors you can change that are going to get you a different result starting pretty much immediately.