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This is how to deal with the blame game

24 Jan 2024 · 1 min

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Short excerpt from a YouTube video by Amber Hollingsworth offering advice on handling blame and defensiveness in interpersonal exchanges. The speaker explains that responding to blame with sarcasm or returning defensiveness escalates conflict, and recommends de-escalating by meeting blame with a different, neutral response to neutralize it.

You make me laugh. So this is like him blaming you. And that's a defensive maneuver, right? But then you're throwing that back on him. You're throwing a little defensiveness. Move back. And we have to learn how to de escalate when that happens. I'm not saying it's fair. I'm not saying that he's not out of bounds by doing that or even that he's right. He's definitely not right. But if you want to neutralize it, you're going to have to meet it with something other than a sarcastic combat guilty over here. So I'm not throwing you on the bus. I'm right there with you.