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This Is Why You’re So Tired in That Relationship #addictionhelp #addictionrecovery #relationship

2 Feb 2026 · 1 min

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This content was created by Amber Hollingsworth. This content was uploaded by Amber Hollingsworth. This is a YouTube video titled "This Is Why You’re So Tired in That Relationship #addictionhelp #addictionrecovery #relationship" (uploaded 2026-02-02). The excerpt is a single-speaker monologue addressing relationship dynamics when one partner struggles with addiction — explaining how personal narratives and attempts to control or 'chase' a partner's recovery create stress and agony, and advocating stepping back to preserve one’s own wellbeing. The content appears aimed at people dealing with a partner's substance use and recovery.

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We create these narratives in our head. They're not based in nothing. They're based in facts as far as what we have lived. So an example of this could be, if I go to the function with my partner, they're going to drink less. That's probably true in a lot of cases. Or if I intervene in some way, there's probably going to be less drinking. That's probably true to some extent. The problem with that is we give the false sense of everything's okay to our partner and everything's under control. And that puts a lot of stress on us to be what need to be, how we need to be, what we need to say, when we need to say it. And that creates agony because, again, remember what I said, I can be valuable and I can be me in my relationship and I won't be judged. When we're in a relationship with someone that struggles with addiction, that's not true. That is not how that relationship is functioning. So when we stop chasing them, when we stop chasing their mental health, when we stop chasing their physical health, when we stop chasing all the things that's going to make their life better or push them into a better state, what happens is we start to feel more assured in what doing and why we're doing it versus being able to push them into something that really is for their benefit. But if they're not ready for it, they're going to push it back on us, which is going to create more agony inside of us.