Amber Hollingsworth provides spoken advice for family crisis situations where a loved one becomes verbally or physically aggressive. She outlines typical escalation stages (pleading/pleasure-seeking → insults → increasing aggression) and repeatedly warns against using physical restraint (do not block doors, wrestle for phones, stand in front of cars). Instead she recommends preserving composure, using alternative interventions (call police with vehicle details if someone leaves intoxicated; contact the phone carrier to suspend service) and avoiding actions that could legally or physically backfire.
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This is your kid. And they've asked to go somewhere and you say, no, you can't go, it's grandma's birthday, whatever. And then things start to escalate. And the first thing they're going to do is they're going to say, mom, come on. Like, it's ridiculous. Like, everybody else gonna go. So they're trying to play like the like, pitiful me thing or whatever. If that doesn't work, then they're gonna start to kind of put some jabs into you and say, God, you're ridiculous. They might call you a name, they might say other people smile and they might say, I hate you, or whatever it is. That's the next level. And then beyond that, it's just going to get more and more aggressive. So here's what I don't want you to do. Never try to physically block them. Don't stand in front of the door. Do not wrestle your kid down for their cell phone. This is going to end badly and it's going to backfire on you, especially if you're a parent, because let's say your kid is freaking drug dealing, heroin addict, okay? And you're just trying to save their life and you're saying, no, you cannot call your drug dealer. Give me that phone. And you can't leave. And you start engaging in them, like with a wrestle down situation for this phone, guess what? You're probably gonna put a breeze on them and then it's gonna call DSS on you. And guess who's gonna be in trouble? You, right? Don't do this. Keep yourself collected. You are an adult. You have some power here. If this is your spouse, your husband or whatever, and they're walking out and they're like, screw you. And they're so drunk, they're not gonna get in the car. Like, don't stand in front of the car. I'm not kidding. Bad things can happen. You can call the police and say, hey, my husband just left. He's intoxicated, he's in this kind of car, and here's the tag number and please go find him. I'm very worried. You can do the same thing about your kid. If it's about the cell phone, you go online to AT&T of rising Harris and. And you just shut the cell phone down, okay? You call the company, you've got power. Do not physically get into an altercation with them. This is very important. This ends badly. And I know they're really good at starting a good fight. And you may want to, but don't Even if it's just trying to restrain them, don't put yourself physically in that situation, in an escalated situation, it's just going to be.
