Short excerpt from a YouTube video by Amber Hollingsworth arguing that family members are often the larger boundary-crossers in relationships with an addicted person because attempts to control or ‘fix’ behavior (yelling, nagging, lecturing) lead them to overstep boundaries, often unintentionally.
Who do you think crosses the most boundaries? The addictive person or the family member? The family member is the most likely to be the bigger boundary crosser because they get in a zone where they want to control, yell, remind, nag, lecture. And it's easy to get in our head when we feel like someone's done something wrong or maybe even wronged us. What happens to us is we instinctually or we want to fix it. And when we do that, we actually begin to cross boundaries and we don't even realize it.
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