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Why Can't People See That My Husband Has A Drinking Problem? #shorts

3 Aug 2022 · 1 min

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A short YouTube clip (Amber Hollingsworth) in which an anonymous speaker describes feeling alone because their spouse has an addiction that others don't fully recognize. Amber explains that spouses often notice problems before others, describes how calling it out can deepen the addicted partner's denial, and directs viewers to a playlist with detailed strategies for addressing denial.

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I'm in a situation where my spouse has an addiction, but no one else really knows how bad it is. Actually, I'm sure some people know, but not to the full extent. Our kids are teenagers now, so I think it must be obvious to them. I just don't know what to do. I feel so alone.
Usually the spouse sees the problem long before any friends, family, or even workmates are aware that there's an issue which is particularly problematic because it puts you, as the spouse, in a problematic role. If you're the only one saying something about it, it just feels to the person like you're the bad gu. What are you talking about? No one else thinks this is an issue. I'm still going to work. I'm fine. It's not me, it's you. It can actually make them dig deeper into their denial process. Obviously, getting someone out of denial is a very tricky process, but there are ways to do it. In fact, I've got a whole playlist of videos that will explain to you exactly how to get someone out of denial. I'll put the link in the description below.