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Why They ‘Forget’ Every Conversation… #addictionrecovery #familysupport #healingjourney

8 Dec 2025 · 1 min

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In this segment, Amber Hollingsworth explains that individuals struggling with addictions—particularly to alcohol or benzodiazepines—often experience gaps in memory, forgetting recent conversations or events. She highlights how this forgetfulness creates repeated frustration for family members who rely on the person to follow through on chores, bills, childcare, or other responsibilities. When confronted, the addicted individual may deny the conversation, claim it never happened, or engage in gaslighting, while simultaneously feeling embarrassed and ashamed about their memory lapses. The discussion underscores the hidden nature of these memory issues and the emotional toll they take on both the person with the addiction and their loved ones.

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Another secret that you're going to see happening with who has an addiction is, especially if it's alcohol or benzos or something, they're likely to be hiding the fact that they don't remember the things that happened the day before or the conversations that have been had. And if you're the family member in this situation, you get really frustrated because you're like, we talked about that. And it can just be something simple about who was going to take care of a certain chore or pay a bill or pick up the kids or wash the car or whatever it is. And then you're constantly frustrated as family members. You're like, we talked about that. We decided this is the way it was going to work. And the person doesn't remember. But when they don't remember, they try to play it off and they may just play it off like, what are you talking about? We didn't have that conversation. Or they may do some gaslighting or something like that. But that's difficult to hide. It's also difficult to hide the fact that they feel really embarrassed about that and ashamed of that. And so they're hiding the fact that they can't remember and they're hiding the fact that they feel embarrassed about it.