Why you should avoid silent treatment

Relationships require tact. And so you do need some time and space to calm down, think through rationally how you want to respond to something or how you really feel about something. What do you want to say? That kind of thing. So you can ask to take time. Hey, let's take 30 minutes. Let's talk about that after dinner. Can we talk about that in the morning? It's an important topic. I really need to get my thoughts together on it. Something like that. But there's a communication that we are going to come back to this not shutting down on you and just closing off and refusing to talk because that's not really. Oh, I was trying not to get an argument. That's like a shutting down which isn't very productive for a couple and for the other person on the other side of the stonewalling feel like they're being punished. Like a silent treatment. When you look at research on children and stuff, one of the worst, most terrible punishments that parents do to kids is they do this love withdrawal.