Amber Hollingsworth argues that monitoring a loved one's drinking or drug use backfires. It violates their boundaries and prevents them from facing denial and consequences, the things that actually push people toward recovery.
Now, when it comes to addiction, the line gets even a little bit more murky, right? It gets harder because if someone is drinking too much or using drugs, you may feel terrified. You are probably going to want to monitor everything. You're going to want to count the drinks. You're going to want to check the bottles. You're going to want to ask questions, track their behavior, trying to make them admit the truth, trying to prevent the next disaster is coming from that place of Fear, broken trust, having to live with uncertainty, walking on eggshells sometimes for years, right? The truth is you can't monitor someone into recovery. And actually, when it comes to getting someone out of denial in addiction recovery, you need to let that ball roll because that's the only way they're going to figure it out. So not only is it overstepping your side of the street, like a bad boundary on your part, but it also is slowing down the recovery process. You cannot control them into honesty.
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