Raele Altano breaks down how Taylor Swift set a boundary when fans threw items onstage during the ERAS tour in Buenos Aires. Swift stated her feelings, gave a safety reason, and thanked fans while asking them to stop. Three techniques for assertive communication without blame.
It really freaks me out when stuff gets thrown on the stage. Taylor Swift just gave us a great example of assertive communication and I am so here for it. Let's break it down to summarize. She was on her ERAS tour in Buenos Aires, Argentina and fans kept throwing gifts and other things on stage. Instead of lashing out at them with you statements and attacking them about what they were doing, she emphasized how it makes her feel by saying it really freaks me out when stuff gets thrown on the stage. There was no direct blame, simply the expression of a feeling. Second thing she did was give a very matter of fact reason as to why throwing things on stage is not a good idea. Dancers can trip on things and people can get hurt. Again, there's no blame, but there's a rationale as to why it shouldn't be done again. And the third thing she did that I really loved was show gratitude. Acknowledged that the intention of the gesture was nice and she appreciates it while reiterating that she prefers that it doesn't happen again. These are three amazing ways to possess an assertive communication style, set healthy boundaries while still having respect for the other person. Well, with Raelle, your communication coach and I hope this breakdown was helpful. Thanks Taylor for that real life example.
