Communication coach Raele Altano shows four ways to shut down nosy questions without being rude: "I'm not up for discussing that," "When I'm ready to share I will let you know," "I'd rather not," and "Would love to talk about something else though." She coaches the delivery: neutral tone, minimal expression, matter-of-fact.
Here are four ways to politely say mind your own business and if you're new here I'm well with Rael your communication coach here to help you socialize and articulate with kindness, class and confidence. I'm not up for discussing that. Would love to talk about something else though. Great question. When I'm ready to share I will let you know. Are we really getting that personal here Right now? I'd rather not. I appreciate your curiosity but now's not the time. Keep your tone neutral, rein in your facial expressions as much as possible and make your statement in a matter of fact way with minimal emotion. Use your cool delivery. Won't give the other person anything to feed off of and they'll probably need a minute to process what you even said. Good luck. Let me know if you try one of these and let me know what other phrase or statement you'd want me to cover next.
