Some people deliberately act mean to kind-hearted people to test how much they'll tolerate and seek approval. Recognizing this pattern early protects you. Stop trying to win them over, stop seeking their approval, and you'll find peace and naturally filter out unhealthy relationships.
People will be mean to you just to see how much you will tolerate and how much you will try to win them over, especially when you are kind almost to a fault. You're too nice and you have this like special light about you. People will go out of their way to be mean to you because they want to see you grovel a little bit. They want to see how hard you will try to make them like you and to win their approval. And these people are emotionally unsafe. It doesn't matter who they are and the role they play in your life. These people are simply not good for you. And the sooner you recognize this and recognize that this is a tactic that people employ the better off you will be. And I know it's hard to even comprehend this or see things this way as someone who wants to see the good in others, who wants to give others the benefit of the doubt, because this isn't the way you operate. So to imagine someone else doing that just makes no sense, doesn't compute to you, right? But it exists. It's very common. And the sooner you stop trying to get these people to like you, stop seeking their approval, stop trying to win them over or making sure they're okay, the better off you will be. The more at peace you will be because you are not taking responsibility over someone else's mood. The more confident you will feel, and the more you will naturally weed out the people that aren't meant to be there for you. So be mindful, because some of you may have this special aura or something about you and may not even realize that this is happening when it absolutely is.
