Raele Altano ran into a woman she hadn't seen in ten years whose warmth and genuine attention made her feel completely seen. A real smile, actual compliments, real listening. She contrasts that with draining people who ask extractive questions or bring mean energy, and says as you get older you spot the difference faster.
I ran into a girl today who I haven't seen in at least 10 years, and her energy was so positive. She was so warm. She smiled and approached me right away as soon as she saw me. She was so complimentary and kind about all the stuff that I'm up to, and it was just so refreshing. It's such a gift when you allow people to feel seen and to let their guards down and to feel safe and just feel good talking to you. And I guess it could kind of be an underrated gift because it's not something that you can actually see, right? It's not tangible, but it's all about how you make the other person feel and It's just so important and such a game changer in how the conversation and the interaction goes versus when you talk to someone who just has this mean demeanor or isn't listening at all to anything that you have to say or is asking you questions just for the sake of extracting information about you. That vibe is so draining, and I feel like the older you get, the easier and quicker you can identify who has the positive energy, who has the negative energy, and that discernment is just much more obvious. It was a great interaction, and if this sounds like you, if you make people feel seen and are warm towards them and help them feel safe and are engaged in their conversation, then keep doing what you're doing because you would be surprised at how good it feels for the other person who's talking to you.
