Short single-speaker tip advising people who tend to undershare or 'gray rock' to add one extra detail to their usual answers. The 'plus one' technique: answer normally and then append one brief elaboration (e.g., “Good — we started summer Fridays”), then return the question to the other person to open dialogue.
Okay, this is for my people who tend to go gray rock all the time AKA under share in their conversations. Here is one quick tip that might help you and I like to call it the plus one answer how you normally would and add just one more layer of detail to it. So for example, if someone were to ask you how's work going? And your go to is to say good. How about you add just one more layer of detail, elaborating a bit further and then you could pass it back to the other person. So that would look like this good. We started summer Fridays and that's always nice. How about you? It's that one extra detail that opens up the dialogue a little bit more and gives the other person something to work with. So when you chronically undershare or go gray rock when you don't actually want to think of what you would usually say plus one extra statement. Hope this is helpful.
