Raele Altano explains the 10-second fix: only comment on things someone can fix in about 10 seconds, like food in their teeth. Skip remarks about states they can't change right now, like looking tired or weight. It's a way to keep comments helpful instead of hurtful.
A few months ago, I shared a video about a tip I like to call the 10 second fix. This tip encourages us to avoid saying something about someone, especially those we don't know very well, that might not be favorable if they can't fix it in 10 seconds or less. So something like you have a little something in your hair, or you have a little something in your teeth. I have a toothpick if you need it, or in the clear when delivered the right way because they can be fixed in 10 seconds or less. Saying things like you look sick, you look tired, like you've gained weight, you look like you've lost weight should probably be avoided because those things can't be fixed in 10 seconds or less and that person can't do anything about it in the moment. Can they magically gain or lose £10 in the moment? No. Can they jump into bed and take a nap? Probably not. I personally love this tip because it's a great way to know where to draw the line, especially when interacting with people you don't know very well. It also helps us determine what would be considered helpful in the moment versus what might be received as hurtful. This concept's been around for a while. It is not an original idea of mine, but hopefully my nickname for it will make it easy to remember and apply in your future interactions.
