A short YouTube clip (by Raele/Raelle Altano) offering concise, eloquent comeback lines to respond when others make condescending or backhanded remarks about being dressed up, made up, or wearing eye-catching shoes. The speaker prefaced that intent and delivery matter, then provides brief example replies that deflect, reclaim agency, or lightly call out the comment, and closes with a coach sign-off.
Here's what to say when someone is making condescending or backhanded comments about you being dressed up, made up, or decked out in general. To preface this, of course, the context of who this is coming from and the delivery of their comment matter. Not everything from everyone is meant in a bad or negative way, so keep that in mind. With that said, there are some people who do like to poke and try to make you feel bad, so here are some responses for those situations. Wow. Where are you going so dressed up? This is actually part of my everyday look. Thanks for noticing. You're always so dressed up. It must take so much time. I could never dedicate that much time to getting ready. Well, it actually takes the same amount of time to throw on a pair of sweats as it does to throw them on a dress. So here we are. Oh my gosh, you're so made up. Who are you trying to impress? Who am I trying to impress? Is that what you just said? Me. Myself. And I, believe it or not, myself. There you go again, trying to outdo everyone. That's a strange comment. I didn't realize it was a competition. Oh my gosh, those shoes are so over the top. Your feet must be killing you. No, they're great and they're one of my favorite pairs, so I love that you notice them. These are brief, eloquent responses to shut it down when someone is trying to poke and make you feel bad for no reason. I'm well with Raelle, your communication coach, and as always, I hope these were helpful.
