A short YouTube advice clip (single-speaker monologue) offering low-drama, non-oversharing phrases to use when someone asks about a person you’re no longer close with. The speaker provides multiple alternative lines that communicate limited contact (e.g., "I haven't spoken to them in a while") and recommends keeping responses calm and non-dramatic unless the speaker chooses to share more.
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Okay, I don't know what's going on lately, but I've gotten a few similar requests from people asking for help with saying that they're not friends with someone anymore. When another person asks about that friend, are we all collectively not talking to people anymore or something? Anyway, here's a way to say it in a way that doesn't over explain and doesn't invite more questioning from the other party. Instead of saying I have no idea how they're doing or I don't talk to them anymore, you can say I honestly wouldn't know how they're doing. I haven't spoken to them in a while. Yeah, I'm not sure how they are. I hope they're doing well though. We actually haven't seen each other in a few months, but that's great for them. These alternatives sound less intense, less dramatic, and less final. It doesn't sound like you don't talk to them anymore, it just sounds like you haven't spoken to them in some time now. If you want to spill all the tea and get into the details, that's also fine and up to you how forthcoming you want to be. But these are some options when you want to keep it real and be transparent without coming off so heavy and intense and like you have to explain what happened with the actual friendship. Hope it helps.
