Raele Altano breaks down what you're actually saying about yourself when you can't say no. Every yes you don't mean tells people your needs don't matter, you're unstable, and you don't take yourself seriously. Start treating boundaries like the baseline, not the exception.
Here are three things you tell yourself and others every time you say yes when you really want to say no. Listen up, because this one's important. And to be totally clear, I'm not referring to the situations where you might be on the fence about something or still kind of want to say yes. I'm talking about when you want to say no and you know you want to say no. You're in a situation like that and you say yes instead of being true to yourself and saying no. Here's what happens. 1. You tell yourself and others that your needs and wants can take a back seat and aren't as much of a priority. 2. You're saying that you're easily swayed and your character or foundation is isn't all that stable. And three, you're saying that you shouldn't be taken too seriously because you're already not taking yourself seriously. I know this can be a hard pill to swallow, but constantly saying yes when you want to say no and not advocating for yourself has deeper meaning to it than just being random isolated incidents. Remember these the next time you're in a situation like this and your automatic go to is to say yes or to rush to make the other person or parties feel more comfortable advocating for yourself and staying true to your preferences should not be the exception.
