31. How to Get Ahead in Life | Randy Garn

Welcome to Stuck to Unstoppable, where we interview the world's foremost thought leaders such as billionaires, national influencers and incredibly successful entrepreneurs. All offering insights to break success down into bite sized steps and the conversations you need to help you level up and move forward. I'm your host, Stephen Scoggins. So happy you're here. Let's jump into today's featured conversation. Our special guest today is none other than Randy Garn, who has been transforming lives for well over 25 years. To add to his credibility, as if he needed it. Randy is a New York Times best selling author, a passionate entrepreneur, high performance coach, and a partner at the High Performance Institute with Brendan Burchard. Randy also specializes in guiding leaders through personal and professional transformation. Randy loves his beautiful wife Charlotte, their four beautiful daughters and, and their two rowdy boys. Guys, please help me welcome my good friend and mentor, Randy Garn. Randy, how are you doing, my friend?

Dude, life is good. Life is good. If I was any better, I'd be twins. Nothing to complain about.

I love it. I love it. Well, look, you know, I know you're kind of re releasing your new old book, but with a lot of revisions, which I'm loving by the way. Dude, I think it's a must read for anybody. And as we get into that, before we get too far into that, I actually want to talk about one of the key concepts, if you get, if you're okay with it, called the Polaris Point. Because I, I thought it was pivotal. Like, I thought it was just, you know, it's, it's a concept that's easy to understand, but nobody's actually put it into that terminology to where you can really digest it. So what is the Polaris point and how did you even, even come up with that terminology?

Well, if you look at it like the Polaris point is so incredibly profound. Back in, you know, back in the ancient times, everybody would use the North Star for guidance. And really, you know, if you were a ship captain, if you were, you know, if you were a hunter. And so in all of the ancient writings, you know, in ancient scriptures and everything is just like that North Star is so critical for guidance. And I think a lot of times in our life it's like, do you truly know, do you truly know what your North Star is? And that, that for me that really means like, what were you put on this Earth to do? What were you put on this Earth to create? What are you going to create while you're here? And you know, for me it's, it was so profound too, when I was writing this book. And that's why me and Ethan made it. You know, really one of our first points is like, if you don't know where you're going, anywhere will get you there, you know. But my dad always told me, like right when I was getting ready to go to college, he said, randy, if you don't have your own goals, somebody else will use you for theirs.

Man, that's so true.

And so I remember that when I was packing up. Dude, I get goosebumps even thinking about it. I remember when I was packing up, getting ready to go to that first year of college and I wrote that down in my journal. If, if you don't have your own goals, somebody else will use you for theirs. And that was just so profound to me. So that is really your North Star. Your Polaris point is your North Star. Your Polaris point is the direction that you are going. And you better be really clear on where that is.

Absolutely. Well, I mean, so to piggyback off of that.

So.

And I'll second, and I'll second that there's a couple of experience that I have that kind of showcase these very, these very same points and some of the things I'm excited to talk to you about today. You know, I started my first company when I was homeless, you know, so I didn't have any real focus, I didn't have any real clarity until meeting my first mentor by a guy by the name of Steve Myrick, you know, and he helped me discover kind of what was holding me back from even setting a clear direction to begin with. So what do you think, you know, holds people back that you've worked with? And God knows you've been transforming lives for well over 20 years. Right. You've done some amazing work already. What have you seen that holds most people back from even setting out to find or discover that players point?

You know, I think that a lot of times we don't take enough time to think.

Yeah.

And for me, I've gotten to a really, really good routine, you know, and one of my close friends and you know, just inner circle guys that I love is Brendan Burchard. Yeah, I've known him for years. And one of the things that, that we try to do and what I, what I've also, you know, I've always done it, but he helped me actually. Perfect it is, is taking time to journal. I'm telling you, like, it's so crazy. Like we talk about it, but there's a huge difference between writing in your diary. And doing a journal, doing a journal is so, has been so transformative to me to ensure that I'm staying on the right course, in the right path.

Yeah, well, you know, so ironically, journaling was. It ended up becoming my first book back in the day. But journaling specifically, I don't think many people journal because I don't think they know how. You know, are they just jotting down their thoughts for the day? Are they asking themselves questions? Are they using it as reflection time? Or are they jotting down hopes and dreams? And I mean, how does, how should someone actually use a journal properly? I mean, based on your experience.

So if again, you've got. I really, I really. And I learned this from my buddy Tyler Norton. He always, you know, said that if you don't have your strategy on one page, you don't have a strategy.

Yeah.

And so I have a really clear. With my journal, I know exactly what I need to do. And I've got, honestly, if you saw my calendar, I've got my whole week mapped out. I've got my whole month mapped out. I've got my big stones mapped out for the year. Not letting anybody else tell me where I'm going. Like I'm leading my own crusade, my own life. But I have to check in every single day. And so for me, what this has been one of my practices and it's different for everybody. But I'll tell you what works for Randy Garn is that I spend a lot of time journaling at night. And I mean, not a lot of time, it's about 30 minutes, but it's like my sacred time. It's like my creativity time. It's my think time. I write down the critical things that I need to accomplish that next day. And I actually look at did I do what I say I was going to do the previous day? So I used to have a hard time sleeping because I had so much going on in my head. You know, we're running several companies and a lot of stuff happening. I've got six kids, I've got two sets of twins, I've got a high performing wife as well. That's just awesome. And so I had to find a quiet place. So I made sure my office, my private office at home and at work is literally a place where I can critically think. And I write down exactly what I'm going to do that next day. If you just implement that practice, if you're stuck or if somebody is struggling, dude, journal at night or first thing in the morning, I Do it at night so I sleep better and I know when I get. When my feet hit the ground in the morning, Coach, I am rolling. I'm ready to rock and roll.

That's awesome.

I know exactly what I'm doing. I don't check my phone. I got my routine down. I've got my habits down, and that's what's happening.

Love it. I absolutely love it. Yeah.

I mean, journaling is.

It's definitely powerful, and it's one of those things that maybe it's a little awkward to kind of get started if you've never done it before. You know, if you just could pull out an iPhone or a Google Doc or something just to start throwing some stuff on paper. You know, I love the fact that you use it to kind of hold yourself accountable. I think Ed Milette refers to it as keeping the promises that you make to yourself. Right. I love that. You know, there's this other concept that's in prosper that I really, really love, and I may get the terminology wrong, but called the Hedrick Treadmill. Is that right? Is that how you pronounce it? Hedrick Treadmill?

Yeah. He drink or Hedonic Treadmill.

Hedonic.

Okay.

All right, so explain to the audience what that is, because, you know, one of the things I love a lot about your book is it's not just amazing stories. Because there's amazing stories. It's not just principles and lessons, but the fact that you actually took the time to even have some pictographs, if you will, of kind of how these different processes work. You can actually lay them step by step. It's something that I think we don't see a lot anymore in bestselling books. And congratulations on the Amazon bestseller already. It didn't take you long. Right. But explain to us what the. What this treadmill process was, how it was discovered, why it matters, and what somebody can do with it.

So. So the hedonic treadmill is actually. You know, this is a. This is a really, really awesome case study. It essentially says that as we were doing a lot of the research and a lot of the interviews for our book, we did a lot of. A lot of interviews. It's. The more money you make does not actually increase your level of happiness.

Yeah, that's true. Very true.

And sometimes the more money you make can actually increase your misery if you don't have your core. Right. And so the Hedonic treadmill is that that person will keep racing and running as fast as they can in life, hoping that things and Hoping that materialistic things will increase their joy.

Yeah.

And the research is that it won't and that there are certain things and actually prosper. We're actually not. I mean, we're actually for making tons of money. We're for actually, you know, being as successful as you can financially, but not at the cost of your joy and satisfaction and overall life happiness. Yeah, that's. We all know a lot of people that have. I've made a ton of money and I mean, I'm coaching with some highly, highly, highly successful CEOs that basically they come to me because they want to get off that hedonic treadmill. They want to bring back the joy and the passion and the love in their life and do it in such a way where they can enjoy it. So the hedonic treadmill is just. You have to be aware that the increase in money or materialistic things are not going to necessarily give you that joy and satisfaction in your life like you think it could.

Yeah, well, I was just thinking back, I was having some memories. You know, I've been in business now. I think I own. I own six companies now, total. Employed a few hundred, you know, several hundred people. But I can think back to the moment where I think I discovered that what you're describing is a level of maturity. Because when I first started my, obviously my first company, it was, okay, I need shelter, I need food. I need to, like, get some stability. That quickly got into, okay, I gotta get out of debt. Cause I, you know, I'd racked up a bunch of debt and that led me to, okay, what's next? Well, my competitors had the Rolexes. My competitors had the nice cars and the big houses. Okay, well, that's gotta be it, right? That's gotta be what makes us happy. Because my family grew up kind of poor. And, you know, they always said that, you know, well, if you can get to where we can get to a.

Double wide trailer, we got it right.

Yeah. When you go through all that process and then I remember, I'll never forget this moment. I had this competitor of mine who had a bright, like rose gold submariner watch, blue, like blue bezel. And I was like, all right, I'm going to get me a Rolex. I busted my butt to try to earn that Rolex and get the Rolex, you know, and within a year or two, I obviously got my income level to that place in time where I could actually make that a reality, only to discover that after about six months of having that watch, it just became a watch. Yeah. Just became something sitting on top of a counter and then it fell off the counter, which is. They're supposed to be indestructible with that crystal bezel. Well, it turns out you can shatter crystal, apparently, because I did. And it cost me like $2,000 to get the watch fixed. One of the things that I learned from about that moment was my pursuit of things was directly holding me back from my pursuit of purpose. And I later discovered that the greatest purpose in life you can ever have is serving the person you used to be. Right. So you've been doing that. Right. You're serving entrepreneurs, you're serving business owners, you're serving sweet, sweet professionals and high, high income earners. And they have all that stuff. They can go out and buy the watch and buy the house and buy the stuff. But what you're really saying is they don't have peace, they don't have contentment, they don't have joy. Right. So how do we get, how do we get to that? How do we get maturity to already start to shape at the early onset of an entrepreneurial journey? How do we get younger version of you or myself kind of setting the right expectations of what to pursue? How do we do that?

You know, I mean, honestly, that is such, that's such a great question. And me, and, me and Ethan have been talking about this a lot. You know, as you go through your life and you build companies. You know, we built companies and sold them. And you get to a point and I think it has to do with really understanding three things. It's, who's your inner circle, who's your tribe and who are your fans.

Yeah, absolutely.

So the most, if you think about it, I'm going to tell you right now, the greatest joy and satisfaction comes within, with our, with having deep relationships.

Yeah.

And having deep trust with those that you, that you love. There, there is something when you know, and you can call it loyalty, you can call it trust, you can call it like, you know, brotherly love or whatever it is, but when you get to a point in your life where you know that your friends have your back and that you have theirs and that they love you regardless of all your insecurities and weaknesses and everything else. Now that's, that's having a really, really good group of humans around you. I would say that if you're at a point in your career where you're trying to please everybody else and you don't have that, that, that solid foundation and that solid group, I'd be like, find those Two or three people in your life that you. That really inspire you. And I'll get to this a little bit, but for me, it's having that core group of just amazing humans that I know are my best friends in the whole world that are highly competent, highly successful, and people that we all aspire to be like. And we push each other.

Yeah.

Too many times people try to. We fall in love with. We fall in love with the wrong things a lot of times. And I say we fall in love with the wrong things. But the other thing that is really important for me is that the greatest joy comes within the walls of my own home.

Yeah.

My wife and I know that this isn't for everybody, but I talk a ton about, like, my family. I have six kids, I've run companies. My wife is an entrepreneur as well. But my greatest joy comes within the walls of my own home. And our greatest joys and our greatest sorrows will come from that. And so I ensure that I. That I have a deep relationship with my wife and with my kids. And more than money, that is where my greatest joy has come from. And so that's, I would say, your family and then your really poor circle of friends that you have, you find that good group of people. That is actually where your greatest joy will come from.

Love it. Love it. When I was just thinking, you know, I had a situation, I had an embezzlement situation with one of my businesses I dealt with a few years ago. And I think that that taught me in that moment probably the greatest lesson that I ever learned, because I went for a solid year because I had to put that company back together from scratch. A solid year without basically seeing my. My wife or my kids. Yeah, my. You know, I heard Grant say this recently, Grant Cardone, that he didn't want to be in a place where he even missed them growing even an inch tall. And that hit me when he said that. And because I missed three inches, like, my boys are six foot plus, I'm five foot nothing. But, you know, I'm the. I'm the second dad. Right. So. But I did. I missed that growth spurt. Like, I, you know, and I had to go and reestablish myself with my own family. And I think a lot of entrepreneurs, even, especially on the early onset entrepreneurs, tie their identity on whether or not their venture is successful. Right. Or how successful their venture is. And one of the things that I've enjoyed most about your platform, your content, all of it, is the fact that you do have this uniquely. So this approach to balancing family life, business life, coaching life. I get in trouble all the time. My wife sometimes has to grab my face and, like, hold on to it.

And say, you're with me today. Put the phone away.

Right. I'm glad you want to save the world. I'm glad you want to help a lot of people. But you're going to sit still today, right?

How do.

I mean, as someone who actually struggles with that, even to this day, like, I love my family. I'll do anything for my. They're my ride or die. I know that they're by far the greatest legacy that will outlive me and my kids and the grandkids and things that come out of that. I mean, did you discover that early on? I mean, how do we put protective boundaries around it? I mean, because I think every entrepreneur is like, dude, I hear what you're saying. I agree with what you're saying, but how do you do it? Yeah.

Well, it's so funny because honestly, I think that it was in coaching people that helped me realize what was most important in my life. And, you know, we built a pretty large. We built. One of the largest coaching and training companies are out there, and we did all the training for Nightingale, Conant and all of their products, you know, Zig Ziglar, Dennis Waitley. And we've got, you know, just a ton of stuff, but a lot of that came from. Actually, I will tell you, writing this book made a massive impact in my life. I was like, dude, what do I really want? And it kind of manifested it to me. And so about seven years ago, you know, when we were doing this, you always know that your family is the most important, but how many times do we make sure that we do that? You know, And I call it the home court advantage. If everything's right at home, you will be so much freaking more successful in business, I promise you.

Yeah.

Like, you leave your house if you're upset, you're not going to have a great business meeting, you're not going to have the type of energy that you need.

Yeah.

When you get home, like, why is it that we do what we do? I promise you, at the end of your life, you won't say, man, I wish I would have made that meeting. Yeah, yeah, you won't. You'll be like, dude, it's. It's actually. It comes down to not forgetting what's most important in our life. And that is. That is those relationships that are the most impactful. And it's like. And it came from. I know, I'll show you this, dude. I mean, for me, freaking like, this is. This right here is one of my most, most awesome. And I just grabbed this today from my house. My dad gave me this for Christmas this year. This is. This is my high school football helmet. Oh, that's awesome. And I mean, he literally, he signed it as my dad. That's amazing. That's. That's my. My dad was a freaking awesome example of that. He's gonna be a doctor. And then he had four sons, and he's like, I'm gonna buy a ranch. So he bought a ranch in Idaho, and he said, I'm going to teach these boys how to work. And, you know, never missed a camp out, did these things. So a lot of people don't have a father like I did. And so I literally aspire to be as good as dad, as my dad. So here's some of the things that I do when I get home, and here's some real tactical stuff that I've tried to do, is that when I get home, I stay off my phone for at least an hour. And if I'm on a call, I finish that call before I walk in the door. And if I've had a bad day, dude, I take a huge deep breath, and I'd be like, dude, I walk in the house happy and full of good energy because that's what my kids are going to remember, right? And that's what my wife's going to remember. And you have to consciously do that. And then on weekends, I have dad Saturdays. So I shut things down on Saturday as much as I possibly can, and I literally, I'll go fishing with my kids, hiking, skiing. It is. It is like Saturday and Sundays. Saturdays for my family, Sundays for God and my family. So those are two days that are just like. That is just focus time.

So I absolutely love that. And I was just. Again, you're saying so much. It causes, you know, causes. I think anyone, whether aspiring entrepreneur, whether late stage, late bloomer or existing entrepreneur, you're saying so much is so true, but it seems so simple. It seems like that. Okay, so I'm going to. I'm going to be focused. I'm going to be intentional. I'm going to give my family the time that they deserve. Is that really going to move the needle? And what you're saying is, absolutely. My life has absolutely led me that direction. 100% love it, man. I love it. Well, let's. I want to talk about the. A different type of business owner, if that's all right, I want to talk about the aspiring entrepreneur who's maybe in their mid-40s, late 50s, early 60s, maybe even early 70s, who thinks maybe it's.

A little too late for me to.

Get a little bit too late for me to get going. It's another one of the things I love most about prosper. In that book, you cover a specific mindset of how to attack that. Talk to us a little bit about the entrepreneur who thinks it's too late for them to really have life transformation or a business they love or a family they love. How would you coach that late bloomer right now in this moment?

You know, it's honestly like, I am in my mid-40s right now. I know I look like I'm 25, but.

Yes, you do.

I'm 46, and I have more energy and more love for life and more experiences than ever and less likelihood to make mistakes. So if you look at, I think it was Edison, I think, wasn't he like in his mid-60s when he invented the light bulb? You know, I would say right now. And I actually know a lot of entrepreneurs that are in their mid-50s and 60s and even in their 70s. Like, my dad's 87. He just bought a cabin up in Idaho on the river. And he's like. And it's funny because he. Because one of the realtors said, well, hey, this guy can't take care of it anymore. He's 85 years old. And my dad's like, well, dude, I'm 86. So I think it's like, it is never too late to start. And in fact, the thing that will keep you alive more than anything else is continue to be creative and push yourself and grow. It's when we stop is when we die. So I would say that if you again, and it goes back to your Polaris point, it goes back to living in your prosperity zone. It goes back to living in what makes you happy and joy. It's where it. It's this whole living and prosper in your prosperity zone is where the income you make is aligned with what brings you joy. And you can do it over long periods of time. It's like, what's sustainable.

Yeah.

And we talk about in our book, you know, there was a very successful attorney making millions of dollars a year and lost all of the relationship with his kids. And he looks at the guy that is doctor Detail. That's just an amazing man. He was a car detailing company that he did it with his kids, making well over 100,000 a year. In LA. But he's like, I wish that I had his life, you know. And so it's like, what are you doing that can earn an income, can maintain your happiness and joy and that you can do it over long periods of time? And it gets back to like, what is your purpose? Yeah, it's just aligning those three things up because you can make a lot of money and be miserable. And that's not for me, that's not life.

Yeah, that's true. It's very true. That's very true. In fact, you know, one of the ways in which I learned the very thing you're talking about, not necessarily prosperities, and I want to jump back into that in a second, was that first mentor I mentioned to you before. A guy that used to pluck me off my dad's construction crew and ride me in his jeep and tell me about flipping properties. And I remember this, he asked me this one question. What's different between a rich man and a poor man? And of course I'm like a teenager. I'm like, well, duh, money. And he almost could have slapped me. I mean it was like crazy. And he said, absolutely not. It's the way they think. So you want to learn to think like me or learn to think like your dad? And it was deep. Fast forward another, probably another 10 years. My fat. This guy played a active, like father like figure in my role in my life and, and my father's life. We're both. And he's on the verge of passing away. And my dad was bragging to him about, you know, you've built all these amazing houses, you've owned businesses in all these different states, you've traveled all over the world, you've left. You know, we used to watch him leave thousand dollar tips under napkins and quickly skirt out of restaurants. For a single mother, like he'd done all these kind of different, amazing things. He was very generous, but also a very frugal businessman. And I'll never forget this, he was laying there and he had a mask on his face. His crinkled hand came up and he pulled the mask off his face. After, my dad was like kind of doting on about all the wonderful things he did. He said, what good are those things to me now? I have no health. And put back, put the mask back on his face and went back and just kind of started resting again. That moment was so powerful. That happened when I was in my late teens. It is by far the anchor moment that has kept me in moments where I could have gone down the pathway of I need more stuff, I need more stuff, I need more stuff. You know, there's one regret that I have in my life currently, and that is while building one of my businesses, I missed two years of high quality time with my wife. And it just so happens that those two years were the two years that she still had health and now she struggles with health on a regular basis. And those are the two years that I would give anything, I would give up the money, I would give up the stuff, I would give, like I would give it all up to get those two years back with her, you know. And one of the things that I love so much about Prosper is it's consistent message of not just creating a plan to bring it into fruition, but it's consistent message of balance and helping you understand. Yes, there's an element of stuff, meaning there are things that you can enjoy the benefit of, but they shouldn't be the sole focus of that. And what you should be focusing on is the foundation of it all. And the things that can kind of bleed in from this year into year long years after you kind of like really, you're not here, you're, you know, I'm, I had the pleasure of be, you know, of having Steve Myrick and most people don't know who the heck Steve Myrick is because he was never on a platform, he never stood anywhere, right? His legacy is living through me because of my testimony of the impact that he made in my life. Right? And I've seen that happen with your platform and your career. There are so many. Brenda's one of those people, right? Evan's one of those people, right? All of these guys that are, that are changing lives, it's very easy for them to say, yeah, he helped me, he gives me proper perspective, gives me a better perspective. And I know they can find a lot of that inside of Prosper. But there's another concept that you have in there that I think that someone can't have enough of. And it's the power of focus. When it comes down to the prosperity zone, right? When it comes down to putting all this into practice, how important is focus and eliminating distraction?

It is, again, honestly, it's something that I, in my early career I really struggled with. And it's something that you have to always come back around with. And that is honestly the reason why I focus so hard now is because I know exactly what I'm going to do every day, right? Do you see how, just, do you see how simple Habits can help you be so much more productive in life. And so I found that. Dude, I am so full of, like, life every single day. I mean, if you knew me, I really wish if you could follow me around every day, like, it would be. It is super fun. It is. Because there is not. You talk about balance and focus. I really don't think there's balance in time. Yeah, I think there's actually more balance in your mind.

Oh, that's so good.

Your mind needs to be balanced. And let me tell you, like, I literally just got goosebumps. It's like, because can you sit for five minutes and enjoy just sitting there by yourself and maybe having a conversation with God or meditating or whatever? It is, like, is your mind balanced? Not as your time balanced. And let me explain that again. It's like, dude, do I feel. Am I at peace with my life? Like, am I? You ask yourself? I am right now. And I love what I am doing right now. And it actually hasn't always been the case. Me and my wife hasn't always had the relationship that we have today. We've went through battles and you're going to. But we literally committed to each other that we're going to help support each other through this life with our kids and work. So here's. Here's an. Here's a great example I had. You know, I was in a business meeting about three months ago, and we're sitting there, and the guy's phone kept ringing, and he picked it up and he. And he literally. He's like, susan, did I tell you never call me at work again. Quit calling me here. Like, I don't. I literally. I'm busy.

I'm in a meeting.

And he hung up and set it down. And I said, man, was that your assistant? Is that. He's like, no, it's my wife, dude. She keeps driving. And I'm like, you know what? And I made. I made a conscious effort, too, about five years ago, six years ago, that when my wife calls, I answer like, that's my. That's my dude. Honestly, that's my most important business partner right there. Yeah, it's like, you know, it literally. And that's that balance of mind that I'm talking about. It's like, are you at peace with what you're doing? And that's what. Really. If you're living in that prosperity zone, if you're earning from your core, if you're taking profound action towards that goal, you will be at peace. Not that it's not Freaking hard. It's just like, you know, you're on the right path.

Yeah.

It's. When you're not on the right path is when it gets. When it gets crazy and you're letting everybody else toss you to and fro. And literally, I really think emails are just a way for other people to throw stuff on your plate. So you have to be like, really conscious with what kind of life you're going to create for yourself. And that's the balance of mind, not so much. Balance of time.

Yeah. Yeah. My grandfather, another one of my mentors, I spent five years as a professing atheist and learned a long time ago that I only wanted to dig as far as I wanted the answers. Yeah. And, you know, he never, he never got at me, got after me with blame, shame or judgment or something like that. He would just say, dig a little deeper, dig a little deeper. And I underestimated the time, the power of what he referred to as the presence. Right. So he used to say, I would call him, you don't understand. Business is crazy, life is crazy. Da, da, da. He'd say, be still, be still. Be still and know that I am God. Be still. And no matter what was going on, crazy in my life, every single time I went to him, that's where he hit me at, be still. And he was right. I would go, I would go with a notepad and a pen and I would sit in the corner in a quiet place and I would just sit, first of all, doing nothing. And I would have all that stuff racing in my head. And it's almost in that stillness is when I started getting the answers that I was seeking. You know, some of the revelations or greatest ideas or just that deep breath mentality where you're. It's going to be okay. It's just part of the process. It's not a trauma, it's a transition kind of thing. He taught me that. And I'm so glad that you brought that up because I do think it's at the heart of the prosperity zone. Is that, is that that sensibility to understand that if you're going to be an achiever, meaning you're going to impact lives at scale, no matter if that scale is two people or a thousand people or a million people, at the center of that, is that, is that connection, whatever you want to call it. Right. There's another thing that I think in your book that I really, really love. In fact, so much so that I'm actually going to have my team do it this week. They don't know they're doing it yet, but they're going to do it this week. And that is this. This concept called the Prosperity Path Agreement. It's almost like a contract, if you will, in the little bit of time we've got left, help everybody understand what that is and what it's about. Again, we don't have enough time to dive into everything that's in the book because the book is just so packed full of information and steps. It's ridiculous. Like, that's a book you're going to read 16 or 17 times. I mean, that's how good it is. But help us understand and explain to us what that agreement is.

So it's really, really. That Prosperity Agreement is. That's where you're the most important commitment you can. So a lot of times in life we're going to. We commit to everybody else. We say yes too much. And I did, too. I mean, that's why I wrote this thing. I wrote this because I like, dude, what kind of life am I going to live? I wrote this book for myself and Ethan did as well. It's just like the Prosperity Commitments and the Prosperity Agreement is that you're committing to yourself, that you're not going to let any. The most important person that you should never let down is yourself. Do not let your. You do not let yourself down and live to the fullest you possibly can. And that's with, you know, with. With your finances. Be smart, be wise, be honest, be true. One of my good friends James Clark's always said, dude, it's all about labor and honor. Labor and honor. And are you earning. Is your income that you're earning aligned with what you do best in the world and with what you love. So, I mean, just really commit to that. Commit to your physical health. Like, I literally. I just got a new. I got a new coach. And you guess what? I did like Ethan and I just signed up for a triathlon. I did the Ironman last. I did the half Ironman last year. I can do it. I'm a chubby, short, little Irishman. But, dude, I'm going to give it hell. I'm going to get everything I got. But I had. But I had to commit to those kind of things, right? So I'm doing. I'm doing a triathlon at the end of July. And I just. I mean, I'm. I'm running, I'm training because I don't want to be like that guy at the end of his life where, you know, we just never know When. When any of us are going to go. And so I just don't want to ever have. I don't want to have any regrets in my life.

Yeah.

And so I've learned to commit to myself and to say no to everybody else. That is taking me off my personal prosperity path.

Yeah.

And so that's that agreement just getting really clearly aligned financially, physically, spiritually, emotionally, you know, relationship wise. The other thing that I think is important in that commitment, it's like, who are not commit to yourself, but who are you also committed to? And I love it. It's just like, who do you work with that you love making money for? You know, who do you work with that you're like, dude, I want to make them a ton of money. And do you rejoice in your friends? Do you rejoice in other success? You know, at the core of it, Like, I'm not one that actually loves to be on podcasts or loves to be on stage. Like, I love helping other people do that. Like that. That's actually what I do really well is helping people build their platforms out. And that's my greatest success comes from that. And so I've understood that. And I understand that that's how I actually earn from my core is I rejoice when my friends like Brendan and Tom Bilyeu and Jay and all these other guys are having massive success. And, dude, I get to cheer them on. I am literally a coach. I am Coach Karn. Let's do this. And I love it when I can help other people, you know, really gain success. That's my success. And that's what I really feel that I love more than anything.

Dude, I could talk to you for hours on end. I just, I love your heart. I love where you're like, your focus. I love the clarity that you offer and that you're bringing. I think that there's definitely a lot that anyone can learn, no matter what level of achievement they're currently sitting at, for sure. So obviously the book's out, right? Prosper's out. Already hit number one Amazon bestseller. Now you've already been a successful entrepreneur. New York Times, all that good stuff. Where can people get the book? How can they learn more about what you're doing and kind of maybe partner with you? What's the best way for people to connect?

Yeah, so you can just go to prosperbook.com or you can go to randygarn.com as well and get it as well there. And so you can order it on Amazon. Go to prosperbook.com or just look up Prosper on Amazon and get it look, I'd love for anybody to read it. Actually redoing it was actually really healthy for me as well. And some of the additions and updates that we made. We wrote it at a time in my life when our business was just completely exploding. We ended up having an acquisition and change really interesting life changing events. And so now I look back at it and dude, I have implemented these things that are in here and it's really. I literally, I've never been in a better spot ever in my life. And I think it's because I took the time to write, write a book. And so I think in my life and if I could give this to anybody is, dude, if you really want to make an impact in your life, take time to write, take time to think, take time to communicate with God and, and ask him what direction you should go. And if you don't believe in God, then the universe or whatever. I believe in God and I really do believe that you will get clarity straight from the freaking heavens of what you can do and accomplish in your life. And then go and do it. Yeah, then go and take profound action. And that's what we want people to do.

I love it. Well, all right, so I got like two minutes left. I know you're a busy dude and you counted some time out there, which I'm greatly appreciative. I know the listeners are for sure. Yeah, let's talk about, let's close it out with action. Right? I go read prosper, I go and start implementing the process. I find my prosperity zone. Right. I'm getting off this, off the treadmill and I'm really kind of getting my focus. Okay, what is it like to put in the work? What should I expect?

And this is where, dude, I am a hard worker and it does. And I'm not like anti grind or anything like that. Like too many people work super hard in the wrong direction that I do feel that if you get real clarity on what you want to accomplish in your life, you will freaking love the work.

Yeah, I love it.

And I know we talk about that, but I would say that if, dude, if you're literally not in a spot personally, that you're happy. Dude, take a weekend, take a Friday, Saturday, Sunday, go up in the mountains, get a cabin, get a brbo and go design your life and then go do it. And you can't unless you have. Again, if you don't have your own goal, somebody else will use you for theirs. So get real clear on what kind of life you want to design. Go design it, then work super hard at it. And it is the labor that will bring the joy. It is the work that will bring the joy. It is the effort that will bring the joy. It is at the end of that triathlon or the end of that Ironman or the end of that freaking sell when you sold the company After five years of doing it, you know, 10 years of doing it, that. That is like, we accomplish something big. And too many people sit there and do wishful thinking and try to please everybody else. And at the end of the day, it's like, did I spend time with those that I love most? Did I accomplish the things that God put me on earth to do? And did I live in my prosperity path? And it's very, very doable.

Mic drop. Mic drop. All day long. All day long. 67%. It was time magazine poll, not even that long ago. They actually redid it as we kind of went into Covid. 67% of the American population would say that they're unhappy, unfulfilled, and like, they're wasting their life. And the one thing that they. That I think you and I could both agree that they're doing right now in their life is they are probably pulling in the wrong direction. And nothing can change your direction. Like a quiet moment. I love it. Dude, thank you so much for coming on and hanging out with me a little bit today. Again, I'll have to have you back on whenever you get some more time because literally we could. I could talk to you for hours about literally pretty much anything related to life or business. I've been inspired by our conversation today. I've had those moments of reflection during our conversation today, and I know they're happening to the listeners listening, for sure. So thank you again for coming on the show, dude.

Oh, man, it's been a pleasure and I look to meet with you in person someday and shake your hand, give you a huge hug, and I'm just grateful for your voice and the message that you're sharing with everybody.

Oh, thanks, man.

Yeah, I'm a hugger, by the way. So when I do get to see.

You, a big old hug. I also share the Irish gene as well.

I love it.

All right, dude, will you get back to rocking it, and I'll see you later.

All right, Thanks a ton.

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