Randy Garn ON Mastering The Art of Living a Meaningful Life & Impacting Others

Abundance is where people are totally, truly happy for everyone's growth and we all grow together. That's the kind of people you want to be around. So I'd say make a list of the 25 most important people in your life and then do an audit. Are you spending time with them? Are you literally spending time with them? Because that's what's going to bring you the most joy. And are they the type of friends, type of business leaders that you can do business with, make an impact, change lives, and it's actually you're following your true North Star and your true passion. That's where the real joy comes in. That's that mastering the art of living. That's what you're talking about.

Welcome to Passion Love Pursuit Podcast. I'm your host, Erica Lippi. I'll be bringing on inspiring guests weekly that will be sharing their personal stories, thoughts and actionable steps that we could take to shift our lives into better health and overall well being. Their knowledge and expertise will provide us with the insight that is necessary to empower. Empower us to make the conscious shift into becoming our best, most vibrant, authentic self so that we can live our lives more passionately and purposefully. Leaving this space, you will feel more inspired, ignited and encouraged to step into your greatest self. Thank you for joining me on this pursuit. Now, shall we begin? Welcome back to the show. So I'm so excited to kick off this week with an incredible guest I look forward to introducing you to. But before I do, if you are a returning listener or this is your first time tuning into the show, first of all, welcome to Passion Love Pursuit Podcast. I'm so excited to have you here and I just want to do a simple ask as you know, ratings and reviews help the podcast really, really grow and reach many people. And that is my simple ask to you. If you have yet to subscribe, subscribe, rate and review the podcast, please take one moment and do so. I would so greatly appreciate it. I love hearing the reviews and I just simply appreciate you supporting the show so we can continue to grow and evolve the show and continue to impact many lives. So thank you, thank you, thank you. I can't tell you enough how truly honored I feel to bring on today's guest. I absolutely adore this man and I know you will too. My guest is truly the man you want to know. He is the man helping build, support and mentor the top leaders in the personal development space. I feel grateful to call him a friend and witness the magic he brings to others lives. Welcome my guest Randy Garn. He is a New York Times bestselling author, passionate serial entrepreneur and business builder. He works closely with and advises some of the world's most recognized CEOs, companies, thought leaders and experts. Randy is partner at Tamarack Capital, partner at High Performance Institute, board member of Maloof Companies and Foundation, and a contributing author at Entrepreneur Magazine. He has been awarded Entrepreneur of the Year by Ernest and young and top 40 under 40. Randy is alumni of Brigham Young University as well as alumni of Harvard University and graduated from Harvard. Owner, President, Management program. Randy loves the outdoors, his wife Charlotte and his four beautiful daughters and his two rowdy boys. In today's episode, we talk about how to master the art of living a meaningful life with passion and purpose, how you can create more aligned friendships, how he ensures to live in joy every single day, how to balance all the things and seasons in life and being extraordinary and supporting others. So not to lay any further, let's welcome Randy Garn to the podcast. All right. I am welcoming on the show an absolutely incredible man that I just feel so honored to be in the presence with Randy Garn. I, I just want to tell you, like, just, I don't know you personally, but I feel connected to you in some regard because, you know, you show up on my Instagram feed. I know like we have a lot of similar friends or we're in this personal development space and I just feel like your energy is absolutely contagious. You are just a joy, a light and I just know you really, really love to serve and I just want to really give you just praise for that because it's rare and I really, it shines through and through even though again, we're doing this virtually. But you shine in that way. And so I just thank you for being here.

Awesome.

It's an honor.

Well, I, I appreciate you having me on and I, I feel the same about you as well. Like I said in the pre interview, like, you really are just a bright light and you are, I mean, what it means to be a mother, what it means to be a businesswoman, what it means to also just to serve your community. I just really, really appreciate the way you show up for others and people's lives. And so I know we have a lot of really amazing common friends and mutual, mutual friends as well.

Absolutely. And we'll go into this because I know you speak a lot on building relationships and that really is a cornerstone of everything about who you are. At least that's one of your pillars and cornerstones. So we'll go into that and because I really want to just grasp, like, all. All the goodness you're going to share today. I don't want to go too much into your history. If you want to say, if people want to learn more about Randy Garn, they could go learn about your history, how you got into entrepreneurship and really what brought you into building the relationships you have today, which are incredible, to say the least. You're surrounded by the best in the business and personal development. And since I'm in this space, too, I really, I really appreciate it. And I also know these are quality relationships you've built, but you built it over time. So I'm not going to go too deep into how you got into entrepreneurship, but I do want to know, how did you build these relationships? Because that's not something that happens overnight. So what kind of characteristics or principles did you put in place to be able to cultivate strong, healthy, sustainable relationships that are actually meaningful?

Erica, It's a good. I mean, it's a good question. And I thought about this a lot because I really do think it's like, it's not who you know, it's who knows you and what they think about you that matters most. And at an early age, I had some really powerful, impactful mentors. Which one was my father. He was a high school football coach for 33 years. And honestly, I do feel super blessed because I met with another gentleman just right before this call who, you know, his father was a drug addict and then his stepfather was an alcoholic. So I know that not everybody has the same opportunity, but I do feel completely and very blessed that I had a father that was very engaged in my life. And I want to be that kind of dad and that kind of friend and that kind of person. I think it stemmed a lot from his example of how he showed up for people in their lives. Like, if anything, a tractor broke down or like, if the cows got out or whatever, like, my dad was the first to be like, boys, get your stuff. We got. Johnny got. The cows are out again. You know, growing up in Idaho and having a ranch and things, and so I just, I watched how he treated people. And I remember one of the times, you know, when I was getting ready to go to college, and I remember walking down the stairs. My bedroom was upstairs. I remember walking down the shaggy carpets down to my dad and got my suitcase and everything, and he literally, like, grabbed my face. Eric, he's like, randy, you know, I want you to remember two things that are going to make sure that you never go hungry and that you're highly successful. He's like, one, remember that people are always more important than things. And then he said, remember also to do as much as you can for as many people as you can, as often as you can, and expect nothing in return. And watch how you will be super, super blessed in all that you do. And so I kind of, like, I took that to heart, Erica, and that's kind of how I. How I live my life. Our greatest joys and our greatest happiness come from our relationships.

100%. And those two messages in itself that really have stuck with you, and you literally implemented it in your life. I think people need to really hear those words, because how could you implement that in your life? And I think a lot of people, when it comes to relationships, I think a lot of people feel burnt out, unfulfilled, and lacking something in their life because they're misaligned. And I think what's important is finding the relationships that you're actually aligned with. And so speaking to the people that are listening to this, that are feeling that way, maybe, like, just something is not right. And I know for myself, last year, specifically, I made the intention to build friendships that I'm aligned with that actually, you know, are going to support my growth, that are. Encouraged me in my growth, and also people that strive, like, encourage me to be the best I could possibly be in every facet of my life. And so I was very intentional with that. But I want people to hear. They feel misaligned with their friendships. What would you suggest would be the first thing they should do to create more alignment in their life?

Yeah, I. Honestly, as I think the very first thing they do need to do is get alignment. I mean, we.

What is. So what does that mean or look like? And where do they begin?

Yeah, I'm gonna. I'll share. So. A lot of times we are so afraid to have the hard conversations. You have to. You have to get alignment. You know, I have. We have. I have Chris Voss coming out. He wrote the book Never Split the Difference. He's coming out to Sundance next week. And just amazing on negotiation, but he's also just amazing on communications. If you want alignment in your friend. Friends is, you know, I love it that, you know, Dr. Sue says it, you know, if. I can't remember the exact riddle, but essentially is if your friends have an issue with the way you feel or what you're doing, then they're not your best friend, you know, your closest friends or whatever. So I always think, like, if you don't have alignment, get alignment. And here's the methodology behind that. Have the hard conversations with them. Ensure that you're fully engaged and aligned and in sync. Getting in sync is the most important thing for your marriage, for your kids, for your business partnerships, for your deep, meaningful friendships. Like, have those hard discussions. And it's important to understand that every relationship goes through four phases. It goes through a forming, storming, norming and performing phase. And if you can't go through the storming phase, then you didn't make it right. So the best friendships that I have and the deepest friendships I have, we've all been through, like those tough discussions on where you stand. And so there's a formula that I have, again, that's, you know, forming, storming, norming and performing. You're always going to go through that point that says, like, is this a deep rooted relationship? Am I doing more than just. Am I doing more than just like, snorkeling with my friends and my business partners? Are we really scuba diving together? Are we really, like, going deep and like, getting down to the root of what's meaningful to all of us? So I think it's important, especially in business relationships, that a formula that a really close friend of mine taught me named Tyler Norton, and he's just an amazing man and I think he may have got this from his father, but he always taught me, like, you ac understand, agree and commit. Too many times we'll commit to stuff we don't fully understand or agree to things that we don't really commit to. Right. So I think the deepest friendships are the ones that there's a very, very, very clear alignment. There's clear goals, there's clear understanding, and there's deep, meaningful, mutual love knowing that we are truly imperfect beings. But as long as you fully, you ac understand, agree and commit, I think that's a great formula to build really lasting partnerships and friendships.

I love that. I love how you lay that out. And there's the framework that everybody should meditate on. And I think that you're so right that people don't actually take time to reflect and go within and say, like, what. What feels out of alignment. I had a fallout somewhat with one of my friends that was actually a best friend. And one of the things she said to me, it just makes me think of this. This was a few years ago over the pandemic. She said to me, she's like, I don't like how you've grown. I'm like, what? I was, I was shocked by it because I'm like, thank goodness I've grown. I actually, if there's something to celebrate is that I've grown. And I personally think I've grown to be a better person through the lessons I' learned and all these things. And I, I thought that was really interesting. But, you know, what they say is when you have a friend or somebody around you that basically is uncomfortable by your growth, that's kind of a sign that maybe they're not the right friend to support you on your journey. They're not somebody that's going to be there for a lifelong through all these struggles to celebrate you. And so I distanced my, myself from that friendship because it wasn't aligned with me anymore. Like, my growth was. It obviously put a wedge between us. So that's quite interesting when you start to kind of look at things in that perspective.

Yeah, no, yeah, you hit a good point. It's like my buddy Jay Shetty, he said, you know, people come into your, to your life for three reasons. You know, for three, for three purposes. You know, a reason, a season and a lifetime. And some people will judge you for changing. Others will celebrate you for growing. You know, make sure that you choose your friends wisely. And so I think that, that when you, when you really understand, when you really understand the relationship side of things is that I really just try to surround myself and try to bless those people's lives who have made my life better on my journey. And a lot of people, like, it's. It's the first of the year. Like, I'm working on business strategy. A lot of companies are working on, like, what is our 2023 business strategy? What's our economic engine? What's our revenue strategy? How are we going to increase marketing sales? What's our leadership team need to look like as we grow? You know, I'm sure you're working on this stuff, right? What most companies will come to me for if I'm sitting on advisory board or whatever. It's like a lot of people miss the most important thing. What is your people strategy, Erica? Like, what people do you need? It's not, it's. It's who then what? And you have to think about those people that are working with you and your business, especially employees. Like, I love everyone I work with. Like, I work with my best friends. A lot of people just say, never work with your family and your friends. I totally disagree with that. I only work with my best friends, people that I love, like, and respect and that are confident. Yep. Because you're going to go work with them every single day. Right. And if you do have employees, if you do have people, love them, treat them with respect, grow them, glow them up, help them grow with you. Make it intentional about that. So what I'm saying is, as you're doing your business strategy, ensure that you're also doing your human relationship and people strategy along with that.

I love that. And actually, you do extraordinary things to support those around you that you really would say are in your corner. And I would love if you could share some of the things that you do that I feel is extraordinary, because I want, I know you could really inspire people to kind of step outside of what would be considered the box of supporting people. Because I know a lot of people think, you know, oh, okay, I want to get this, I want to get all, you know, I want to get success and all these things. But to get success, you have to give and you have to give and you have to give. Yeah, a couple more times and it, and the switches is giving from a place of genuine care opposed to giving to get something. And I know the things you do that are extraordinary. You could, I'll just touch on one. I know you write handwritten letters. You, you're very intentional in those you support, which really shines way brighter than most people do. So can you kind of share some of those things you do and maybe encourage people to kind of think outside the box of the way they support, like, genuinely support others?

Yeah, I mean, honestly. And I, and I've learned this and you know, being on a really close friend on the board with Harvey McKay for years. He's one of my favorite, favorite guys. He is the best. He wrote the book Swim with the Sharks. You know, never trust the naked man who offers you his shirt. You know, dig your well, dig your well before you're thirsty. I've learned a ton from, I've learned a ton from Harvey. And then just try to take some of that to a whole nother level is that little things don't mean a lot. Little things mean everything when it comes to meaningful relationships. And so, for example, I have a full time person that just manages my relationships. Like, Annika is the bomb. She's amazing. She, we, we try to never miss a birthday. We try to. I, I send out, like you said, like, I've got five handwritten notes that are going out with books and a journal today. I'll watch for stuff. I don't send out Christmas gifts. I'll send out Thanksgiving gifts. Right. You know, to individuals. But sometimes it's just like, little stuff that doesn't cost anything. Like pulling out my phone and, like, doing a quick video recording for somebody, just being like, dude, I'm just thinking of you today. What can I do to serve you? Or knowing how I can serve them and already doing it for them before it even happens, know that they have a book launch, and I'm just like, I order 250 books from them. And I'd be like, dude, I'm gonna get these out for gifts for everybody, you know, before they ask me. And you have to think about relationships in the long game. What? Now that I'm a little mature, I'm a little older, I've grown a lot. I wasn't always this good. I didn't always look this good either. You know, it is what it is. But here's the thing is you have to look at relationships as a long game. You never know who the treasure map to the treasure is. And so you have to treat everybody the same, whether it's your Uber driver, the CEO. And so I think it's so important to know that is, like, it's. What do people say about you when you're not in the room? Is it positive? Is it negative? Is it like. Or is it nothing? This is like, I don't know. I don't even know what they do, you know? Or is it like, you get that? Like, somebody's like, hey, what do you think about John? I don't know. I'm not going to say anything. But that's it. It's done. You know? That's all. That's all you need to say. So the more mature I get is that I understand that you have to see everybody has massive self worth, but everybody is a key piece to your mosaic. And when it comes to your building your own relationship and your personal brand and that you never know who. The treasure map to the treasure map. Here's a great example, Erica. But we went public with our company in at a young age, and we ended up buying it back. And it was a really, really, really interesting time. Our company was exploding. We went entrepreneur of the year with Ernst and Young, and all of a sudden we had all these private equity groups coming after us and saying, like, dude, we're highly interested. Hey, let us be your partner. Let us do this. So we narrowed it down to, like, two really, really awesome companies. We had a banker that was working with us. Those me and my partners, we flew out to New York City. We get. We get. We're running late, because then coming Here from, you know, from Idaho, Utah, from the West Coast. We get to New York, we don't realize that we're like, oh, it's only like a couple blocks away. We'll grab a cab or whatever. Took us like 15 minutes to get a cab. So we're running late, right? We go running into the elevator. A lady is coming at the same time, like, we're coming together. She's got a huge thing of fruit and berries and this whole breakfast thing. And she gets in the elevator with this and she rubs one of the strawberries right on our banker's sleeve, on his white, like, white sleeve, and has got all over his suit. He lost his mind. He's like, are you kidding me? What the freak's wrong with you? Do you realize a suit probably costs more than you make in a year? Oh, my gosh. We get in the elevator, we go up 16 floors, go up to the top, and we're meeting with the company that's going to invest in us, right? One of the ones that's going to be a life changing event for us. And we're so excited. Guess what happens? That lady gets off the elevator first and he's kind of rude. The whole way up. I was like, so uncomfortable. We would never treat anybody that way. But that was. Again, he was with us. She gets out and the receptionist comes. It opens up to their whole office. Like, it wasn't like opening up into a hallway. And then you go, this is like, this was the 16 floor of a massive private equity group in New York. She gets out, she goes to the receptionist and she's like, oh, Jana, you know, let me take you back to Mike. Mike was the guy we're meeting with. My heart sunk and crazy, crazy, crazy. Who do you think that person was?

Tell me.

Well, she took the fruit into him.

Yeah.

And then the receptionist came out. She's like, they need just a few minutes. I'll let you know when they're ready. We sat there for like 10 minutes. We go into his office, we open it up, she's there, and he's just like, hey, guys, thanks so much for coming. We're not going to sign the deal. Anybody that would treat my wife like that, you know, I really don't want to.

I had a feeling.

So, like, we had no idea. So it's just like, treat everyone. You never know how. You never know what people are going through in their life. Sarica. So I try to treat everybody that I can with kindness and love, regardless of their title, regardless of who they Are because you just never know. And that's what brings me joy, is learn to give, to give, don't give to get. I give to give. I'm in a place right now, I can only eat so much. I can only put on one pair of pants. Like, you know what I'm doing. Well, my family, I'm blessed with a beautiful wife and six kids. I've got amazing business partners. I don't. I'm not transactional anymore. And I think most people in life are fully transactional. What will you do for me? How can you do it for me? I was on a call this morning, just like some people want me to get them to an event and like, I can't force it. And they're just like, oh well, if you can't do that for me, then what good are you? You know, it's just like. So you have to think about the people you want to surround yourself with, who lifts and builds you up. Ensure that you're surrounding yourself with those type of individuals that both give to give. Because if you're a giver and you surround yourself with takers, you're going to get in trouble. But if you learn to give, to give, all of a sudden you're going to get so wise to know, like, that's transactional. And very mature business. Business leaders can sniff that out in a second.

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Yeah, I honestly, I think, Erica, it Actually does come to a few things. It comes to having amazing energy, which comes with literally living your purpose. And I love Passion. Love Pursuit podcast. Right? I mean, that's what it really comes to. Are you aligned with. You know, I always feel like, you know, I believe in God, believe that we're all created by a divine design. You know what's really interesting? I work closely with a really large Israeli company, and, you know, we all have a unique fingerprint, right? Did you know that our heartbeats, every one of us have a unique heartbeat that's even more unique than a fingerprint. There is a. We all have a unique heartbeat and pattern. And I think about that, you know, I really do. I have joy because I see everybody as either they're a son or daughter of God, to be honest with you. Like, I never want to, like, leave this earth and. Or even leave somewhere where somebody felt like I didn't treat them or show up the best that I could. And so I think some of my joy comes from that is just seeing that everybody has greatness in them. I really do. I got to a place where I love people. I just do. I mean, and I have. So that's one thing is it's like, how do you look at people? Do you look at people as a tool? Do you look at people as a means to an end? Like, do you really love your neighbor? It gives me great joy because I love. I do love people. And even I have a hard time getting angry. I have a hard time because I always say, like, getting angry is like swallowing a poison pill, hoping the other person dies, right? Or, you know, and I haven't. I have a very, very easy time forgiving people, because it's more of a. I just have a piece of in my heart that I'm doing the best that I can, and I'm gonna treat people the best that I can. And I think that's just lent to me. And I think people feel that if it's sincere and integrous, then I think the other thing is, is, like, don't waste your time with people who don't value your worth. You know, match your energy. You know, don't. Don't hang around people that don't have your back. You know, life is way too short. So I made a list of. Again, this was one of my mentors, too. He said, randy, make a list of 25 people that you love, like, and respect and you want to do business with is because we just sold our company. And I was like, these are the 25 people I want to do life with this one. Going back to like, that human strategy. This is what brings me joy, is now I'm doing business with, you know, 17 of them. You know, four of them were completely not who they said they were, you know, and I was like, I don't want to be with them. Right. So you actually find out. And then probably 10 of them are some of my dearest friends to this day. And still I'm going to. Flying out and having an amazing time with them this weekend. We get together twice a year and talk about how we can double down on goodness. And so I think on a life side is ensure that you're not just completely trying to save everybody or be around people like you talked about. Be around those people that aren't happy for your growth. Abundance is where people are totally, truly happy for everyone's growth. And we all grow together. That's the kind of people you want to be around. So I'd say make a list of the 25 most important people in your life and then do an audit. Are you spending time with them? Are you literally spending time with them? Because that's what's going to bring you the most joy. And are they the type of friends, type of business leaders that you can do business with, make an impact, change lives? And it's actually, you're following your true North Star and your true passion. That's where the real joy comes. And that's. That's. That's that Mastering the art of living. That's what you're talking about.

Yeah. And what you're kind of taking. You're talking about is getting clarity on these things. And I know that's one of the. You work with Brenda Burchard for the High Performance Institute. And first thing is clarity. And I think that really, I mean, I talk a lot about intention, like being very intentional with the things you say yes to, the things you say no to. Just. You need to at least have a guide of where you're going. So clarity is necessary for all these things. Really?

Yeah.

Yeah. So one thing, because you're a busy entrepreneur, and I know you have a family, you have a large family of a loving wife. I would love to know more about your wife event eventually. But because she sounds like the best. The way you talk about her is just the most beautiful thing. But you also have six kids. You're a busy, busy man. I think one of those things that a lot of people struggle with when they're starting something new, entering the entrepreneurship space or whatever. It may just be a career balancing those things. What would you say to. I would love to say specifically men, but let's just talk about kind of everybody, like how to manage that to make sure. Because you were talking about like to make sure you're spending time with those relationships. I know there's seasons we go through where our business needs more focus to grow and then our relationship and then our kids are going through something, you know. So how do you balance that? Because I think that's where the big struggle or the burnout is.

Yeah, yeah. The most important thing that you can do is. I mean, there's a couple of things. The most important thing you can do, especially when you're with your kids and when I'm with my spouse, is to be present. Is to be present. Put your phone down. Put it away. I put my phone in my office when I get home, you know, and I spend the next two hours with my family. You know, I really do consciously every Saturday and Sunday. I work super hard and I love it. But I also play super hard with my family and I make memories, you know, I want to be, I want to be like my dad was. I want my kids to love me, you know, I want them. That's my greatest joys. And so the most important thing you can do for your family is to be present. The other thing that, and, and to intentionally create experiences with them. You know, every Saturday, like I take my boys either skiing or fishing or hiking every Saturday. My twin dog, I have two sets of twins, Erica, I mean, he's like, do twins run in your family? Yeah, they run all over our house all the time.

How. What's your oldest kid that you have?

I have. So I have a daughter that's 21 and she's getting married in March. I have a 19 year old daughter that is. She got a freaking amazing scholarship to the university. And she's like, dad, I want to be an entrepreneur like you. I'm going to start my own goldsmithing business and jewelry business. And she's like, I'm not going to go to college. Go for help. Let's go. So she wants to be a goldsmith. She's actually going to go and do a service mission for two years and she's leaving right after my daughter gets married and I've got twin daughters that are 14 and twin boys that are 10. And life is non stop. But it's so freaking fun. It's amazing. So I think just ensuring that my kids are. I haven't always been. I haven't always been the very best of being present. But I am now. I'm actually super good now. But I think when I was a young father, when my oldest daughter, I mean, we always mess up our first kids, right? But my best friend now. But, you know, I was running a company, my wife was running a company. We had two sets of twins and a lot of pressure was on my oldest daughter. And so I probably didn't give her everything I need to. And then, then you make, you just try to make up for that, right?

Yeah.

Well, I think the biggest thing is to be present. And then I think too is that most men and most business leaders that I know, I mean, and I work with some really, really successful CEOs and people and a lot of people come to me like, Randy, how do you have so much energy and so much joy?

How do you do it?

This is it, I'm going to tell you, is that I'm fully, fully, fully committed to my wife because there's so many people and me and another business leader that he is as well. He's an amazing man. Loves, you know, loves God. We don't go to the after parties. We go, we go home to the hotel and we call our families and we FaceTime them. You know, we don't go to those type of things because too many people in this world are searching for love that may be right in front of them. And love is hard. Life is hard. Being married is hard, you know, but if you are fully, fully committed, then it makes it so much easier to live when you, when you both are. And I think that's with me and my wife is like, my kids know that we love each other. My kids know that there's strength at home. I always talk about the home court advantage. If everything's right at home, you can be way more productive and successful in business.

1,000%. You know what? My partner and I, we were seeing or continuing to see a pastor that for premarital counseling. And he's a pastor. And so it's very faith based. And I remember him saying that when everything is right between you two, everything else falls in line. And it's so true that because number one, your example for your kids and then also like when you guys are, if you guys are the foundation, everything else will be solid. So I think that's really powerful. So the other thing, since we're speaking about faith a little bit, or at least I brought it up, I know you're a very faithful man. Like you said, you believe in God and I know that is a core cornerstone of your life. So I kind of want to touch on this a little bit because I'm curious, was it always that way and what possibly shifted in your life to make that a priority? And I know you're very intentional with it, this kind of two part question. But you journal a lot. We'll go into that a little bit just to touch on it because I think part of cultivating faith and putting faith at the center of your life is being intentional with the time you spend with God and whatnot, and also through these other things you do, such as journaling and whatnot. So, yeah, I'm kind of curious about that.

Yeah, I'd be happy to share with you some of my, you know, some of my tricks, tactics, you know, what, what I do, you know, to really stay grounded and to really stay in the right space, you know, again, mastering, mastering the real true art of living. Because we only, you know, are here at a short time and you know, there's been a couple times I, I, four years ago I was getting ready for the Kona Half Ironman and like me and my friends were racing down this hill and we're coming to the stop sign and I look at the car and we see eyeball to eyeball, you know, and he's, it's a four way stop, so he's got to stop. And I look at him and, and he ran the stop sign and ran right over top of me. And I remember as I was getting ran over, I'm like, dude, if I don't die, my wife is gonna kill me. When I go home, I'm not gonna be paralyzed. And I remember hearing the bike underneath the truck just crunching and popping and like it ran over my chest and my legs and somehow it didn't run over my head as I got pulled in. And you know, I'm just like, I'm like, this could be it. And you know, I think from, from that moment that I've always had, even when I was like 15, you know, really had a really interesting, just, just a good relationship with, with God and with my heavenly father and, and there were some times I was like 15, it's just like, randy, I need some help. My friends were all starting to do drugs and starting to drink. And these were the high school kids and you know, the really cool kids and all that. And I remember thinking like one of the guys, they were drinking at a party and he grabbed my, grabbed the, I was, I was like, they hand me a beer and one of the guys is just like, dude, garn, you're too good for that. You're gonna do great things in your life. Do not get stuck with this. While he drank, you know, he was drinking. He's like, dude, I'm here to protect you. And I, like, that's like a guardian angel for me, you know, and just those little types of things. I've been protected so many times that I can't not know that I have, like, angels watching over me, that I don't have protection. But also that every night, I journal every night, Erica. And I have a whole system in a process, and it's actually very, very simple. And the very first question that I. That I have and that I ask, and this came from. From a really amazing leader that I follow. I have the questions like, how did I see the hand of God in my life today? And what miracles did I see that puts me in a place of gratitude? It's just like. Like, I'm not in charge. I'm not literally in charge. And there's so many miracles, even two miracles that happened today that I can think of that I didn't even think about until, like, you asked me this question. So that's the very first question that I write down in my journal. Is that the next question I ask myself? What are the five most important things that I must do tomorrow? And I will write those down. And then I write. The other question is, who are five people that need me as a role model and I need to serve tomorrow? And I will write down five names and actually keep a list just on my notes. Sometimes somebody will come to my mind, and I'll put a note in. I'll send them a book. I'll send them a journal. I'll write them a note, or I'll call them, be like, dude, what's going on? How are you? I mean, I. Those are the. Those are really the three things that I write down every night. And that has actually been so healthy for me. And I've been doing that probably for the last 23 years.

Wow, that's so great. It's so great. Powerful questions, and it makes you find, like, as they say, what you focus on, you find or magnifies. And so you're asking questions to find the answer. It's almost like I remember I used to do, or I set the intention to every single day to find three things, three little things that I could be grateful for. And I remember, like, when you set that intention, you find it, and you find the simplest, littlest Things like you said, little things don't matter a lot. They, they're everything right. So I, I love that. And I think just those three things that you shared, I think anybody could start to practice in their day and start journaling and, and it's really great that you do it the evening before because you're setting your next day up for success. So that's powerful. And of course you're a high performer, so that's what high performers do. So that's amazing. Last question. To kind of wrap it well, not second to last. If somebody, since we're, we're talking to a relationship guy that has really mastered relationships, sustainable relationships number one. I know you have a book out, I just ordered it so I'm going to be reading it. And I know it's actually, I believe it's a quick read so anybody go grab it. You could probably read it in a weekend easy called Prosper. I'll plug that in the show notes. But if you, what would you recommend to somebody that is kind of starting off in entrepreneurship and they want to build the right relationships that they're aligned with? Would you suggest they join a mastermind? They start going to summits or like I know you're a big, I just saw you were at Tony Robbins. I'm like ah, I want to be there because I'm, I've only done the virtual which is so shocking and I'm such a Tony Robbins girl. So I'm looking forward to going in person. But that's one of the things think I've over the pandemic. Even though I was doing it virtually, I, I cultivated a lot of friendships through Tony Robbins because you're surrounding yourself with like minded people. So what would you suggest for somebody? Would you suggest masterminds or what would you, what would you recommend?

Well it, honestly a mastermind could be a really, really great start for me. It's actually building your own personal board of advisors. And one of the greatest things when I got back, I lived in the Philippines for a couple years. When I got back, one great mentor of mine said Randy, don't be afraid to ask for help. And he gave me the advice is set up your own personal board of advisors. So you have to think about that as a young kid coming out of college. We started our first company when I was literally 23 years old. Company we started when I was a junior in college, became massively successful. We were doing all the coaching and training for Nightingale, Conan, Zig Ziglar, Dennis Whaley. Like we just Exploded, because that's. That's intentionally. But one of the things that I learned is, like, don't be afraid to ask the people that you want to be like. And you're like, I want to be like them. Do something for them. Go serve them. Ask them to be on your board. Ask them to be like, dude, I just would love to have you mentor me. I love it when I have colleagues. It's like, randy, dude, is there anything I can take you to lunch? Or that? And I'm like, heck, yes, I will make time for those people. So I think even if you're later stage and you're trying to, like, get that traction that you need, get out, get your own personal board of advisors. I would say yes. Go to the right masterminds, you know, ensure that you're going to the ones where there's people that you don't want to be the smartest person in the room. You want to, like, you want to be able to level up and do those things. So. So I think. I think establish yourself, your own personal board of advisors that help you to generate those skill sets that you need is probably one of the best thing you can do. I have my own coaches that I pay. You know, I've never paid for coaching. I've only invested in it. Right.

So, yeah, there you go. So true. And I do think that especially for entrepreneurs, I believe to get to the next level, you have to make a personal investment. And that personal investment could just be your personal growth, healing your wounds or whatever it may be, because that takes you to the next level and how you operate so powerful again, I could. I could go on and on with you. There's so much value that you provide. So, last question. This is something I ask every guest, and I love to. I love the vast different answers I get. So if you were to share a piece of wisdom, a life lesson you've learned along your journey that you just feel is something on your heart right now that you feel anybody needs to hear, what would that piece of wisdom be and why?

Probably the biggest thing that I try to do is to never be boring and never be predictable. And that way you will always be memorable. Make sure that people never forget you and leave every single person better than you found them. Again, never be boring, never be predictable. And that way you'll always be memorable. And I always say, if they like you, they'll listen to you. If they trust you, they'll buy from you. If they have an experience with you, Erica, they will never, ever, ever leave You. But there's a whole nother level. The fourth level is if you transform somebody's life and make them a better person, they will shout your names from the rooftops and be a disciple of yours and talk good about you. You will never, ever, ever have need for want again if you will follow that process. That's what I was on my heart.

Oh, thank you so much. That's powerful. So powerful. Okay, so everybody go follow Randy Garn. He's on. He drops so much goodness on his socials and just, you know, see everything he's up to. I don't know if you have another book in the works, but you just have so much value to provide. I know there's so much. I mean, you do provide so much value. So I just thank you for being present in your life. You know, you are truly number one. You're. I could tell you're a phenomenal father. And so you're. You're teaching your kids how to really show up in life and make an impact. The way you have in the way you serve. And just thank you for your friendship. Thank you for your support, you know, from afar. And I appreciate you. Thank you so much.

Eric, you're the bomb. Dot com. You're the best. Thanks for this time, man.

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