Episode 300: 300th Episode Special

Hello everyone, this is Rebecca Greene for the Winey Plousa Podcast, and this is a super duper special episode.

Super duper, it's a technical term.

I have never said that on the podcast before. This is my 300th episode.

Congratulations. That is awesome, honey. I'm so proud of you.

I can't even believe it. How does it feel? So we're joined today I can't do a 300th episode without my fabulous husband, Seth Green. So how does it feel that you came up with this idea for me to do a podcast? And here I am, 300 episodes later.

That is phenomenal. I am very proud of you, very grateful, and very excited. And I just like to say thank you for doing this. You have brought light and hope and love and laughter to the hundreds of thousands of people who listen to this and who watch it. And the fact that I'm really glad I didn't give up because I gave you this idea and you said you didn't have time. So I'm glad I insisted and pushed you to make the time for these 300 episodes. Here's to 300 more.

So a lot of you have heard the story already, but I have learned my lesson. I promise I have learned my lesson. Seth thought about me writing a blog. Because I'm a social worker and I was writing about motherhood as I went on my motherhood journey with little kids. And he said, let's turn these, these, uh, journal entries into a blog. And I resisted. And then he said, let's turn it into a vlog. And I resisted. And then he said, let's turn it into a podcast. And I resisted. And then he said, let's turn it into a book. And I resisted. So I think I've learned my lesson.

And there was a summit there, and now there's a newsletter and an app and all that good stuff.

So let's start with— we're going to talk about the newsletter, but we're going to start with— I am going to talk to you about the last year and the last 100 episodes. Don't worry, I'm not going to go over all 100 episodes. We don't have time for that. Um, but I've learned a lot in these last 100 episodes. This podcast is amazing. Self-growth. Who knew that that would be the benefit? But I'm talking to experts every week— psychologists, counselors, coaches. I'm talking to so many experts and learning so much, and did not expect to grow so much from this podcast. But I started out the year last year doing my first summit And that was all Seth. Seth came up with this idea and it was magical. And I loved it. And we supported each other and we lifted each other up. And we learned a lot. And then guess who I got to talk to finally? Rabbi Alex. So we have this wonderful rabbi in our lives. And I have learned that there are certain people that I am nervous to ask to to be on the podcast. So if I have not asked you, it may not be that I don't want you on the podcast. It may be that I'm nervous to ask you. And I have learned that what is the worst case scenario? Someone says no. So I got up the courage to ask my rabbi to join me, and he wanted to, and it was wonderful. And that's part of how I started off my year. And I interviewed both my girls this year and my husband. And what I want to tell everyone listening is you don't need a podcast to interview your kids or to interview your husband. Sit down with a list of questions for your family and you will learn so much about them. I learn about Seth, I learn about my kids. Seth interviewed, um, Max interviewed Seth this year for the Father's Day special. That was amazing. And honey, I got to interview your mother this year for the Mother's Day special and learned stuff from her that we didn't know. So my advice to everybody listening is take out a piece of paper, write down some questions, and tell your children or your spouse or your mother-in-law or your mother that you wanna interview them.

I, I would chime in and say record that interview. Even if it's the voice memo recorder on your iPhone. Uh, one of the programs I lead at work is a legacy planning program conducted by a nationally famous estate planning attorney. And one of their biggest things in the legacy pro— planning process is interview your parents, interview your grandparents. And A, you might learn some things and some family stories and traditions that you can pass on. And there will come a time when they're not here anymore and you will be very glad you did that interview and you will listen to it again and again.

I'm so glad you're here because that's wonderful advice. And as you're talking, I'm realizing that we never interviewed our fathers.

We did not do that for Father's Day. Max interviewed me. So maybe next year for Father's Day, we could interview our dads.

We haven't interviewed— well, my dad said no. So see, when you ask people, right? Have you been—

maybe he'll change this year.

Have you been able to hear me? Because I didn't have my microphone next to me.

I can hear you fine.

Okay, so I did ask my dad. My dad said no. I haven't asked Seth's dad. I haven't asked Seth's stepdad. So we still have two dads I haven't asked.

I think Max could do a great job interviewing both of them.

Oh, booyah! Father's Day special, Max interviews both of your dads. Bum bum bum. We just see we're coming up with a plan. We need to do this more regularly. So I think that, you know, I knew Seth was going to do this with me and I knew Seth was going to ask me like, who were your favorite guests this year? Well, I want you to know I spent 2 days going through 100 episodes. Do you know this? Did I tell you this?

You did not tell me.

I went through all 100 of my episodes to go through who I interviewed because I had a feeling Seth was going to ask me, well, what did you learn from these guests and who was your favorite guest? And you want to know who my favorite guests are?

I do.

Do you want to take a guess?

Well, now you're setting me up. So we did not plan this. I have no idea what Rebecca is going to talk about during this episode. I am flying without a safety net. So because she asked, like, do you want to guess? That sets me up, but I'm going to guess it's me and the kids.

So I am sorry to every single one of my guests who I had on. I love you. I appreciate you. You were wonderful to talk to. I had the best time talking to you. But my favorite guests are my family. I get— it's amazing how giddy I get every time my husband comes on the podcast. I don't know why, but I love when he joins me and I think we need to do that more often because I like it so much. I love when my kids agree to come on the podcast. Lily is like, when is it my turn? Ella's like, fine. Lily's like, when is it my turn? And I haven't interviewed Max. How do you feel about that?

I think that would be a fascinating interview because he's resistant to it.

I wonder if he would do it this year. Okay, so I'm taking notes. The dads and Max.

Now I'm gonna put you on the spot and say after me and the kids, who is your favorite, quote unquote, real guest?

Well, I mean, I love them. I mean, I loved talking to Rabbi Alex, and I know that's not, you know, you're looking for like a parenting and marriage expert. Come on. I, I don't, I don't think I— I mean, you know, I love Dr. Liz.

There we go.

I love— so when Dr. Liz and I get on to talk together, She— her and I have, like, the best conversations, and I'm kicking myself for not pressing record because our pre— pre-discussion was so good. And I was like, I have to stop you because we're going to start talking.

So for 2024, I think you should have Rebecca Greene back on for, like, a 4th time and actually record the whole thing. Like, literally the second she gets on, hit record. And if there's pre-show that we don't need, we can edit it out.

She actually asked me if I wanted her to come on monthly.

Ah, Dr. Liz Nissem Mathias. Go check her previous episodes with Rebecca Greene. They're awesome.

So we've done two together. This was our second one, and I wish I had pressed record as soon as we started talking, but I have loved talking to every single one of my guests. I just had Dr. Terri Badar on, and she is like— I think what I love, I love to learn from my guests. And they all teach me something and we have the best conversations. But I liked the extra layer that Dr. Terry had because it was like that spiritual stuff that I love. So I think that— see, here comes another note. I think that I need more spiritual— spirituality in the next year. And I'm not talking like spiritual, like my rabbi, who I adore and can come on whenever he wants. I'm talking about someone who is, like, into spirituality.

Yep.

You know what I'm talking about?

I'm sure we could get you a number of spiritual podcasters, authors, people from Hay House. Like, yeah.

Okay. So, so what, what I did was I outlined some things for, from the year to talk about and was really impressed to see all all the stuff that my family has gone through this year and all the people that I have talked to this year. And you know what we did as a family? We accomplished a goal, a couple of goals this summer that I have been talking about. And do you know what those two goals are? Would you like me to share with you?

Yes, I would like you to share with me.

Okay, so goal number one We got a pool.

Yes.

Yes. Um, and we enjoyed our pool, right?

We did.

And goal number 2, we, I scheduled very little camps and that was new.

Oh, I didn't, I would never have guessed that. I was going to guess like getting Max a car or something would have been your other goal.

Yeah, that, I mean, that's coming up now. Oh, we did do that over the summer. So I really wanted our summer to look different, partly because we got a pool and I didn't want to be living in my car, rushing around. And I understood my friend for the first time because she has a pool and she's like, I wanna sit by my pool. I don't wanna drive my kids around to camps all summer. And for the first time, I did not live in my car because I wanted to be home and I wanted us to have some relaxation. Love it.

Yes, I enjoyed the summer more than the one of you complaining that you were constantly going 17 places a day.

So that was— those were two huge summer goals. And our oldest child got his license. And not only did our oldest child get his license, but as a gift to myself, this was not— this was not a gift to Max. I don't know if Max realizes this, but We bought Max, we bought myself the gift of a car from Max, partly because man, does that kid work hard. Man, does he get good grades. Internship. Uh, what else? Tell me. Tons of homework. Just works his buns off. And I felt, and I think Seth agrees, that he deserved this gift. I don't know if you agree with me, but I felt like I deserved this gift because I have driven my kids so much over the last 16 years, and I'm blessed to get to drive them to all their places, and that will continue. But giving Max a car took a load off of me.

Yes, it was a, a gift for both of you at the same time. So in my mind, I split that car payment into two. Half is for him, half is for you.

I think that's a great way to look at it. And I really appreciate you going with the flow of that because that was your wife's crazy idea.

You have— hey, listen, I have these crazy work ideas like the podcast that take off and make us money. And then you have these crazy ideas like the pool and car and other things that spend money and we meet in the middle.

Well, and so what I wanna tell everyone listening is the hours that I spend on my vlog, blog, on my vlog, on my podcast, on my books, on anything that— on my group, on my emails, the hours that I spend every week, I give myself more permission to spend some money on things like a cleaning lady gift to myself every other week. So I would so much rather— personally, personally, I would so much rather do more work and have a cleaning lady.

I would rather you work more and do stuff around the house less, and your time is more valuable than that.

I— yes. So I'm, I'm learning to use my time more wisely, and I am learning to delegate, and I am learning to give myself permission to spend money on things like getting my nails done. So my— as I went over the topics of the year, every Wednesday I come out with a new topic, and one of my topics was about Taylor Swift and what she has taught me. And she has taught me a lot. Go find the blog. I think it's Lessons from Taylor Swift. And as I was reading it and thinking about it, I was thinking about how my daughter Ella made me become a Swiftie this year. And that is new. That is new. And I believe in a lot of the things that she writes about— karma, apologizing, following your dreams. And you can see that people like Taylor write down their experiences and that their creativity is flowing out to the universe in magical ways. So I'm just gonna encourage everybody to use your life lessons and write it down, play some music, do some artwork, use it for something. Um, as I reflected on the year, I also took a gamble and we put Lily back in cheerleading, and I wrote about that, and we taught— and Seth and I talked about that, and that was a really good experience and taught our daughter a lot. Ella started high school, and, um, I learned a lot from my guests and I wanna tell you the one word. You wanna ask me a question or you want me to just answer the question? You want me to ask, you wanna ask me any questions or you want me to keep going?

I don't know what question you want me to ask you. You did not prep me. Um, so you're gonna keep going and I'll interrupt you as we go through it.

So as I went through the 100 episodes and took my time reviewing and thinking thinking and reflecting, I realized that one word comes to mind this year. I have a word of the year. Are you ready for it?

I'm excited to hear your word of the year.

I wonder if you know my word. It's grace.

Yeah, that would have been my guess.

So my word of the year is grace, and I love that word. If I had a new cat right now, I would name her Grace.

So you're not getting any more pets.

Well, I'm not gonna make him that promise, but I'm gonna keep the name Grace in my back pocket for one day.

So yes, in that magical time called someday, you might use it.

So one of Seth's way of coping with me and my pet requests is he, instead of saying no to me, his favorite line is maybe someday.

Yes, I used to just say no, and that would cause conflict and you'd be mad at me and it would never get me anywhere. And I realized that when I shifted, it was after one of the things I learned when I shifted after going to Tony Robbins, after doing Tony Robbins Date with Destiny, was that if I just said someday or maybe, you wouldn't get upset, it would make you feel better. And I wasn't saying yes. So it worked out for both of us.

So what I am saying is that as I talked to all of the experts this year, And I realized that the word that they were teaching me was that I needed to give myself more grace. And what I realized was that if I'm not giving myself grace, then that also pivots to I'm not giving anyone else grace either. And I'm holding everybody else to the fire because I'm holding myself to the fire. Right? So—

Can you talk a little— that's an interesting lesson. So it's not just about the grace, it's about you can't receive it if you don't give it first. Can you talk a little bit about that? Because you're a big proponent of that. I've noticed.

A big proponent of what?

Of you can't get— you can't receive what you don't give first.

Well, if I am not doing something for myself, if I'm not being less critical of myself, if I'm not being— if I'm not giving myself grace to make and permission to make some mistakes. If I am doing things to myself, then that reflects on how I treat everybody else in my life. So if I learn that I'm way too hard on myself and that when I make a mistake, I beat myself up, then I see it in my parenting. And I think parenting has been one of the biggest motivators to me for self-growth because Seth and I want to be wonderful partners to each other and we want to be wonderful parents. So if I am doing something with my children that I don't like, that motivates me to look at myself because it always starts with us. So if you don't like how you are with somebody else, turn it back on you and look at yourself in that situation. So if I'm yelling at Seth for making a mess, turn around, put it on myself. And how would I treat myself if I made a mess? So now when I spill something, I'm like, you know what, Rebecca, stuff happens. So you spilled, clean it up.

Yeah, you used to get really pissed when the kids would spill something.

So I— well, it was just like constant. Like, in my defense, when they were younger.

Yes.

Right? So I'm gonna defend myself here and tell you that everyone was spilling something every time I turned around, and I was so tired of cleaning up messes. And I realized that when I spilled something, I was yelling at myself. I can't believe you just did that. You just made more work for yourself. You don't have time for this. You're in a hurry. So I started with myself. And if I am comforting myself and being easy on myself, then I'm going to see me treat Seth and the kids differently too. So is that a better explanation?

It is. And I think it's also helpful to think about that in your interaction with other people. If someone is being really critical of you or critical of others, to realize they're doing that because they're doing it to themselves. And it might not necessarily be about you. So don't take it personal, which obviously that part comes from The Four Agreements, another one of your favorite books.

Well, The Four Agreements is my favorite book, and I would say that anytime that somebody is upsetting you, you're taking it personally, and it's probably not about you. And I'm gonna give you the perfect example because I impressed myself. Sometimes I do that. I had a friend treat me like total garbage out of nowhere. And I was like, this is a good friend. Why is she treating me like garbage? What is going on? And all these people were calling me about it and talking about it, and I was like, I'm gonna tell you all something. She must have some stuff going on because I'm gonna tell all of you calling me that I did nothing. If I did something, I would say I treated that person like crap and they should be mad at me. But knowing that I did nothing and being aware of the fact that she holds on to so much of her own stuff, I was able to deflect and not feel much about the whole situation because I knew it was about her.

That's a great example.

Right? So there's an example of me successfully not taking something personally. So when I see my friends being really hard on their kids. And I'm like, whoa, they need to chill out. Like, what did their kid do? Nope, not about their kid. It's about themselves. They're super hard on themselves. And guess what? It comes right out at their kids. So yes, I've learned a lot this year, as you can tell.

It's been an awesome year.

It has been. It has been an amazing year. We have two kids in high school. We have work exploding for both of us, just like so much good stuff for Seth. Uh, Winey Palooza just started a newsletter, right? Thank you, Seth.

You are welcome.

Seth is full of ideas, full of ideas. I need to come up with some of my own work ideas, huh?

There's no pressure. See, look at that. You see, you're being hard on yourself. There's no pressure.

Well, I feel like Seth is the idea master, but I am the doer. So he'll say, This is what I want you to do. This is my idea. And then I carry it out with my content.

Yes, you are the talent. None of it could happen without you.

But you do have fantastic ideas. And I love that you are always learning and growing and studying and learning from others. And then that inspires me to do the same thing. So when my kids say things like, you're so lucky, you're not in school anymore. Well, guess what? I'm in school for the rest of my life. I might not physically go to a school, but I take continuing ed. I go to Seth's Mastermind. I talk to experts every week. I'm really learning and educating myself all the time.

Yeah, the day you stop learning is the day you go backwards. I think Robert, famous, legendary, long since dead copywriter Robert Collier, said school is never out for the professional.

Right? That is Excellent.

I don't wanna be out of school. I wanna always— we're in Earth School. I want— I'm always learning.

Yes. Yes. Becoming, becoming better versions of ourselves every day. One of the things that I told you that somebody taught me was every day we should ask ourselves if we're doing better than yesterday.

Yep.

I love that. And when I made notes on my favorite guests, I also made a note that I love when people I know I love meeting people. I don't want any of those people— I'm not discrediting any of my guests who hear this. I love meeting people. My favorite part of the podcast is that I get to connect with wonderful women. However, I, I wrote down that my favorite guests besides my children, my husband, and my rabbi are my friends who come on here. And some of my friends are in the profession and some of them aren't. And I actually have a really good idea to bring Tayton on that I will talk to you about this after. And I don't know if she's gonna be game and I don't know if she's gonna hear this, but I do have a really good idea. But I love when people I know come on the podcast. So if you are a friend listening to this, uh, don't be shy. Tell me you wanna come on and talk about a certain topic. I know so many social workers that I still wanna ask. Who I used to work with or who I know from the field. And you look like you want to say something.

I'm good.

You're just listening intently.

Yes, I'm active listening.

Uh, thank you. I appreciate that. And I'm answering my, my outline before I even get to what I wrote down, and I'm already ahead of myself. But, um, I wish I had this when my kids were little, is what I wanted to say. And I think that as I was reflecting, I was kind of sad for myself because I'm glad to be here now and we can't go back and change things and we need to live in the present. But can you imagine if I had this when my kids were little? When our kids were little?

Thank you for including me. Yes, you'd just like you have become a different, better version of yourself. You would have started this part of the journey. Of self-growth through the podcast sooner.

Well, and, and not only—

it probably could have normalized some things you went through and made you feel better and that you weren't alone.

So when I was listening to some women, you know, I listen to podcasts, and when I was listening to them this week, I was thinking about the young mother struggling with her first baby, and I was crying because if I had had them talking about their birth experiences and all of that stuff back in the day, I would have been coping so much better than I was. So if you are a new mother, I am so glad that you found me and others to help you through motherhood because we should never be doing it alone and we need a village and we need support and I'm honored to be a part of everyone's village who's listening. And I hope that you found something along the last 100 episodes that helped you or made you feel supported or loved or understood. And I hope that you will reach out to me and tell me if you have topic requests, podcast guest requests, um, anything else that I'm missing about people reaching out and telling me things.

No, I mean, you've done— I've, I've had the privilege of getting to engineer and support your growth and watch it all. And if you had asked me in the beginning, I never thought of the personal growth part of the journey that would come from you getting to interview hundreds of amazing expert women. I wish I had, but it's been phenomenal and my company would have produced it for free. Just to watch you change and grow because that affects all of us. So it's been a beautiful experience watching and I can't wait to see what the next 100 episodes do.

Can I put you on the spot and ask you if there's anything in particular that you have seen changed with me over the last 300 episodes?

Oh my— sure. Yes. You can always put me on the spot. It's your spot to put me on your show. So for sure, you have become less reactive. You have become more tolerant. You become more patient. You've given yourself and everybody else more grace. I think that you have become— you were always a good communicator. I think you become a great communicator. I think you've gained more self-control and more self-discipline. And I think you become a better parent, mother, wife, and human being because of it.

Well, that's amazing. Now, anything particular to our marriage that you've noticed? Because I've talked to a lot of marital experts.

Yes, I, I think our marital communication has improved dramatically. I think we have a lot less conflict. I think we do a better job managing it. I think we fight fairer. Yeah, better. And I think we've grown together as a couple. And if you look back 5 or 10 years ago, I almost don't even recognize those people.

That's awesome.

Oh my God. Those, those kids, those crazy kids and the stuff they used to do to each other, do to each other. I can't believe we did that crap. I'm so glad we're not, you know, we've grown since that.

Oh my gosh. Well, it has been quite the honor to get to do this for 300 episodes, and I'm looking forward to the next. The next year, the next 100, the next 300. We'll see how long this goes and how it evolves. But, you know, thank you for the idea. Thank you for giving me this platform because it means so much to me. And almost every time I do a podcast, I feel like I have to pinch myself and be like, oh, this is my job and it's so cool.

That's awesome. That makes me very happy.

Okay. Well, while I have you all here, as I'm ending, I want to make the request for a few things. I would love for you to rate this podcast and give me a review. I would love for you to share it with another mom or aunt or grandma or someone you think needs to hear it. I would love for you to look back on the 300 episodes and see if there's something you missed that you wanna listen to. And I would love for you to go to winelifelisa.com and check out my blogs. Lots to read if you're a reader like me. I love to read. And, um, join us at 9 o'clock on Wednesdays on Facebook and YouTube, right? Facebook and YouTube.

9 o'clock Eastern time.

9 o'clock Eastern time. We go live every Wednesday with a new topic. I write about it, post the blog. And then I talk about it at 9 o'clock that night. And, um, join my Wine Inclusa Mom group on Facebook. It's free. It's a supportive community and I'm really enjoying it. I think all the women enjoy it. And, um, I think one of my, one of our children is trying to get Seth's attention. So I'm going to let Seth go and I am going to thank him for joining me for my 300th episode.

Congratulations, honey.

Um, thank you everyone for joining me. This is Rebecca Greene reminding everyone to spend every day laughing, learning, and loving. Thank you for tuning in to the Winey Palooza podcast. If you like what you heard, please be sure to subscribe so you never miss an episode. While you are there, leave a review. I love to hear your feedback. Thank you so much for listening. Until next time. This show has been produced by Market Domination LLC. To discover how you can have your own show completely done for you and turn it into a real published book and become the authority in your marketplace, go to www.marketdominationllc.com/podcastoffer.

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