Whinypaluza Wednesday: The Power of Writing It Down

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Oh boy, which way are you going?

She's going over the wires.

Okay. Now you have to come closer. I don't— okay, moving on over. I feel like I am a broken record every week.

Congratulations. Maybe one day it'll be a platinum record. I'll get you a gold broken record.

How is everyone doing today? Happy Wednesday.

Happy Wednesday.

Um, Lily kind of wore me out today.

She had some help.

Um, yeah, a little help with her friends, a few friends over, all the friends. And then she's doing a fashion show, and then she's texting me from upstairs to come do her makeup.

Anyways, isn't the fashion show at a camp?

No, she did a home fashion.

Oh, this is just for you. Okay, I missed this. So yesterday I thought this was fashion camp. This is separate. Lily made her own camp.

Yes, Lily. Well, Lily was inspired by camp last week to do a fashion show for me.

And were you very fashionable and showy?

Oh my God.

So yesterday—

you don't hear when we tell you to go get something, but you hear when we're talking about you.

So yesterday Lily and I found the bottom of her floor. In finding the bottom of the floor in her bedroom, we put away a ton of clothes and she was like, that's where this was. So finding all the—

carefully filed.

So finding all the cute outfits We got to have a fashion show. Led to her being like, I want to try on my clothes. But anyways, I'm totally off topic.

Totally off topic.

So this week, my topic is the power of writing it down. And this was inspired by my husband.

Sorry, that was a Lily pose.

He's copying his daughter. He loves inspiring me.

And It was not intentional.

I found his recording on Facebook of part of his mastermind. He does a mastermind once a month on a Friday on Zoom. And if you want to find out about it, let us know. I listen as often as I can. And if I can't do it live, I listen to the recording.

Yes.

And he has great topics every month for businesses to learn from. And this week, this month was the 10 Rings of Power by P.T.

Barnum.

And it was awesome.

Thank you.

And I loved it.

Thank you.

And one of the Rings of Power is Write into Being.

Yes.

W-R-I-T-E. Write into Being.

Right. Yeah. They had pens back then, quills back then. Right.

And you gave the example of Jim Carrey. Can you tell them your example?

Sure. And if you wanted to watch the recording, I'm happy to make it available. And I gave dozen examples, but obviously the Jim Carrey one was most meaningful to you. So he was literally homeless, living on a trailer, a camper, in somebody's lawn, on somebody's lawn, broke, wanting to be an act— trying to be an actor. And he wrote himself a check for $10 million, which obviously wouldn't cash— he couldn't cash because it would have bounced and the bank would have yelled at him. But he wrote a $10 million check and put it in his wallet and looked at it every single day and told himself every day that one day he was gonna be able to cash that check. And then obviously the, one of the very early movies that he made, Dumb and Dumber, he got paid $10 million for and actually was able to cash the check. So he wrote it into being by writing it down and focusing on it every single day, which is something P.T. Barnum did. And most people don't know he was a business icon in his time, more than just a circus or a museum. And one of his most powerful principles was to write things into being, literally write it as if it's already happened, describe every aspect of it so that you can actually create the space for it to come true.

So I was listening to Seth talk about this and I was smiling ear to ear because I was remembering how I wrote him. I wrote Seth—

I only exist because she wrote me.

I wrote Seth into being. So I want to tell you a little bit about that. And I decided, okay, so my relationship before Seth was wonderful because it taught me everything I didn't want in a relationship.

Thank you for the clarification. I heard a different story.

So I found a silver lining.

Yes.

In that other relationship, and then it really taught me that this wasn't good for me, this wasn't good for me, that wasn't good for me. So then it pushed me to a place where I was like, okay, Melissa, listen to this, because you can definitely write your husband down. So listen to my story.

That's what she did.

And I want you to know that it works. So I was thinking about what I didn't like about my partner every day. I didn't like this, I didn't like that. And that was my focus. And I got more of that.

Ira says hi.

Hello. So I decided to turn it around and I decided it was time to think about what did I want in my husband/partner and what was I looking for and what qualities did I actually want instead of thinking about what I didn't want.

And you were reading a book at this exact time that it told you to do that.

Yeah, and you read the same book.

Keep going and I'll interrupt again later.

So I read a book that also inspired me doing this. So I started writing down: he is smart, he is funny, he is kind, he is hardworking, he wants a family, he lives in Buffalo, he is Jewish. And I laughed when I wrote that down because before Seth, I had never dated a Jewish man.

And one and only, baby.

My parents were like Can you just marry a Jewish man? And I was like, not going to happen. Such a good daughter.

So you made up for it.

I would stare at my list. So instead of crying every night, which is about the bad relationship that I needed to end for like the third or fourth time, I decided to focus on something else. And I started to— I looked at my list every night. And I expanded on it every night. And I started to think I was being my— I was like, your expectations are too high. What are you doing? Because I kept adding to my list, got longer and longer, and I would read it every single night. So I'm telling you that no matter what it is, a job, a child, a husband, weight loss, Uh, what other goals are there, honey? Work goals, money goals, fitness goals, whatever you want for your life. Think about it in detail, as detailed as you can, and write it down and focus on it every single day. And I went to temple with my parents. It was Rosh Hashanah. It's the Jewish New Year in September. And I was sitting with them looking at all these young Jewish families and like the tears are like dripping down my face and I'm like, what is wrong with you? And I realized that I was feeling so sad because I was longing to be sitting with my parents, with my husband and children, and I was fantasizing about it. And I said, God— I don't know what you believe, but I believe in a lot— and I said, God, how come my husband can't be right here in Temple with me? Okay, so fast forward to Yom Kippur, which is 10 days later, the Day of Atonement, I go back to temple with my parents, and 3 rows behind me is Seth.

I was at the wrong service, by the way. I slept through the service I was supposed to go through by the letter in my last name because our services are alphabetical. And instead of just skipping it altogether, I decided to go by myself for some reason— some reason— to the M through the rest of the alphabet service. And 3 weeks— 3 rows ahead of me there she was, which I didn't know until she got up to go out of the service to go to the bathroom.

So I get up, I go to the bathroom, Seth and I have eye contact, I recognize him, he recognizes me.

That is not what happened. You went to the bathroom, I followed you.

I was getting there.

We didn't have eye contact in the service.

Yes, we did.

We did not at all. You didn't see me until I followed you to the bathroom and knocked on your shoulder.

Okay, we're having a difference of opinion. He followed me to the bathroom.

Yes. Not into that.

I think that I saw him, but I didn't know he was gonna get up. I think that's what happened. Okay, whatever, whatever. So that's not the important part of the story.

You're right, continue.

So I go to the bathroom, he comes up to me before I get to the bathroom. We both think that each other is married. He's like, nope, I'm not married. And I'm like, nope, I'm not married. I was like, I'm gonna nip that one in the bud right there.

And he was so nice Hey now, you had me until Seth was a creeper. I was a very nice creeper.

He was, you know what, he was dressed in a suit and he looked so nice and so handsome, and I recognized him from high school because we went to high school together. Um, we didn't talk in high school, but I recognized him, and he was, you know, he remembered me and he remembered my name, and we started talking, and I was like, he's so nice. And I go to work and I tell my friend Stephanie about him. And, um, I, you know, she's, she's pushing me to break up with my boyfriend, which she was like right from the get-go. So, um, eventually I did finally break up with him. And she says to me one day at work, she's like, you know, God is knocking on your head and you are totally missing it. She's like, didn't you go to temp? Didn't you ask for a man at temple and then go to temple and a man comes up to you and gives you his business card and you said he was handsome and nice and you are just totally missing this and I can't believe you. And I was like, oh my God, she's right. So I chickened out from calling him. Which is what she wanted me to do. And I emailed him and he says, yes, I remember you, call me tonight, this is my phone number. I was like, oh, why can't he—

made her work for it—

why can't he call me? So I took a leap of faith and I pushed myself out of my comfort zone because I am traditional. I know, I know, I'm getting over it. And I wanted him to call me, but thank fully. I called him and it was a wonderful however many days of talking on the phone. And we were both like, oh my God, what if it's not as good when we meet in person? And then we met in person and he picked me up at noon and dropped me off at midnight. And I realized when he left that I didn't want him to leave. And I went to the work the next day and I told Stephanie that I found my husband. And I was 100% right. And I went to look at my list and I read over my list and I was like, holy cow, this guy is more than my list. I thought my list was way too big and Seth was more than my list. So I literally feel like I wrote my husband.

And I feel like I wrote my wife because I'm going to correct you one more thing. You were reading a book that Stephanie gave you called God is a Matchmaker.

Did Stephanie give me the book?

I think so. I was reading a separate book by Wayne Dyer called There's a Spiritual Solution to Every Problem. And I too wrote a list of everything I wanted and didn't want in my future spouse right along the time, at the same time that I walked into Temple and saw you. So I later read the book that you read because I was fascinated that we had the exact same story. We did the exact same thing. And that's when the universe conspired to bring us together.

So that is my story about the power of writing it down.

And you have since used this power for many other things besides me.

I was getting there. So it has really made me believe in the power of words and that if we can think it and we can write it down, it can come true. And I think that the more specific we get, the more likely it is to happen. And it's like we give it to the universe and the universe hears us and the universe Universe can't hear us unless we're very specific. So someone had said to me, you can't write, I am thinner, which I am guilty of. You need to write, I am X pounds, and you have to be super specific. Or, um, like I said to Seth that I wanted my paycheck to go up every month, um, from X to Y, and he was like, well, what is your Y? What is your specific goal?

That's a dollar amount.

Like, write down the specific goal. And I just, I wanted to share this with all of you because I wanted you to use this superpower for yourself. I want all of your dreams to come true. I believe in the power of writing it down. Get yourself a journal, do it every night, look at it every night. And when it happens, I want you to write to me and I want you to tell me about it. Love, Intentional Journaling. And this Message, friends. Oh, thank you, Melissa. I was inspired by my husband. I heard the— I don't know why the Jim Carrey story spoke to me. I think because I think he's awesome and I love his movies.

And then he wrote himself a check until he could cash it.

I didn't know that story, so I think maybe that's it. It just intrigued me so much. And I didn't know that he was like homeless. I didn't know. I didn't know any of that. So we hear stories all the time about people getting themselves out of homeless— homelessness—

homelessness.

So, um, anything else to share on this topic?

No, there's— we've done a number of different workshops on it. So again, if any of you are interested, I'm happy to get you the recordings of those, and you're more than welcome to join us.

So I wrote my blog on this. So please feel free to go right to go read more details at on Facebook or at whinyclusa.com. I loved my July summer challenge in my Whiny Clues mom group. That was so much fun. And I'm going to think of more fun challenges and I'm doing my best to share good tips and strategies every day.

Did you know August is National Romance Month?

Ooh, so maybe it needs to be a marital challenge.

Ooh, I like that.

Well, what if you're not married? Me, then it needs to be something about personal development, personal— about finding— I don't know, there might be people who don't want to be married sometimes. Not everybody wants to. Not everybody wants to be married, or at this point in time. Exactly. I wanted to, and I found you.

Yes.

No, you found me.

Yes, to both.

Whatever. Thank you for going to Temple.

You're welcome. Thanks for not thinking I was a creeper, Melissa, when I followed you to the bathroom.

Oh my God, That's so funny.

So Temple's usually a pretty safe place.

I do feel safe at Temple. That is very true.

You don't normally get picked up by weird guys in Temple.

I have never gotten picked up at Temple before you.

There you go.

So this Friday is a very, very special Winey Palooza Family Friday podcast because one of my absolute best friends Marcy Abramsky came on my podcast. Marcy has her own practice, Inspire a Mind. We went to nursery school together, and then we reconnected in social work graduate school. And she is a fabulous social worker, a fabulous therapist. She has so much to share. I, I have never been so excited to do a podcast. I was like giddy. I was like, oh my God, Marcy's coming on. So I think you're gonna love it. I know you're gonna love it. I hope you will tune in, and please continue to tell me what you want so that I can give you what you want.

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One of these days I'm gonna be able to do that.

You just gotta write it into being, baby.

I have to write it down because I remember things when I write it down.

Look at that.

Yes, Lily, honey, can you come close us out, babe? The fashionista is coming to sing us out.

You ended early.

I didn't end early, I'm just done with my topic, so I end when I end. There's not a time.

30.

Sometimes it's 9 minutes longer. Sing us out!

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