Follow These 7 Simple Steps to Get Anything You Want In Life

I want to give you a overly simplistic, simple model. It's like a checklist. It's like, okay, I want to change my body, I want to change my relationship. Where do you start? The first step on your path is what do you really want and why do you want it? Clarity is power. If you know what you really want, why you want it, that's different than the earlier conversation when she's telling me what you didn't want. You make no progress focused on what you don't want. So you have to start with, what do I really want? And most importantly, the fuel is why you want it. And you have to have strong enough reasons to actually follow through when it gets uncomfortable, because it's going to get uncomfortable. And that's the first step. If you said, I want something and you can't tell me what you want, that's where we need to start. He said, I don't know. Okay, great. Here, I'll help you. I don't know what I want in my business. I don't want anyone for profession. I don't know what I want for a relationship. Now. Great. If you really don't know, let's try this. Let's describe the job from hell. The job you'd never want to describe the relationship from hell. Everything you'd never want in a relationship. And you know what happened. There's an energy in upset and anger. And when people start writing with that energy, they get flow. Most people can tell you the problem, plenty of detail, just like you did. And then when they write it all down, what they don't want, I say, okay, now look at that piece of paper, write the opposite. And you have the job from heaven. You have the relationship from heaven. So we can get you there. If you don't know what to do, get up in your body, change your state and you'll know what it is. The reason you don't know is you keep saying, I don't know, I don't know, I don't know. Which conditions you not to know. It literally blinds you. So that's the first step in anything. And if we get to somebody and they're unclear, we're all going to go. If they're not on the path, first step to the path. Do they know what they want and why they want it? With clarity, is it strong enough? If it is, they're on the path. If they're not, you're not even on the path. Second step. And by the way, there's seven. But the first four are the Most important, the others just give you momentum. The second one is you got to find and face the truth, because the truth will set you free. What does that mean? You got to be clear and honest about where you really are compared to where you want to be. How many of you have some areas in your life where you are, not where you want to be? How many areas where you're actually doing great? You're proud of where you are in that area of your life? The only way you improve, once you know what you want and why you want it, is to tell yourself the truth about why you're there. In other words, you describe the gap with clarity. Where are you compared to where you want to be? And then the second part of that is you got to close the gap. In order to do that, you got to get clear what's gotten in the way in the past. And that's basically what I did with each of these people I was just talking to. If you listened, what's gotten in the way? It's a fear, it's an emotion, or it's a limiting belief, or. And that belief is made up of language, physiology, and focus. In case you haven't noticed, they're all made up of those three things. We could change any of those and change the belief. Or is it a skill you're missing? You know, like, you manage your finances, but you don't have any skills in there. You don't know how to invest. You don't know the basic principles. So the way you face the truth that'll set you free is you figure out what stopped you in the past. And it's only a few things. It's a set of motions, a set of beliefs or set of habits or skills you're missing. And I'll tell you 90%, at least 80% of the time, it's the mental and emotions. Because if you have the right beliefs and emotions, you could get the skill. And if you tell yourself the truth there, now you're really on the path. Now you got momentum. Then what's the third step? Move your business, your finance thing, you dissolve and create a map. A map is a massive action plan. And you don't wait till you know the perfect thing to do. You just simply sit down and say, okay, what's worth trying? What can I do right now? Not I'm going to wait, spend 20 days to come up with a map. No, no, no. This is a massive action plan. What I'm gonna do now, what are all the ways I could get to the result I want you brainstorm them all. And you're not going to do all those things. So you're going to come back and say, what are the 20% of these things that will give me 80% of the progress? And those are the things you go do and you do one of those immediately. You don't wait, you don't wait till it's perfect. And by the way, if it doesn't work, what do you do? Try something else. If that doesn't work, what do you do? How many times do you change? Do you get what you want? You heard me share this with you before. How long do you give your average baby to learn how to walk before you shut them off and go, dude, you're not a. You're not a walker. What are you crazy? My kid's gonna keep trying to their walk. That's why almost everybody walks. We need just a quick map, a quick piece. What are three things you're gonna do? And I'll say that to many of you after, tell me two or three things you're gonna do out of this. So I know you're gonna take not just the understanding what's stopping you, but you know what to do. And then the fourth one of these first four are the majority of it. You gotta do what's hard. That's what everybody tries to avoid. You got to slay your dragons. So the dragon hers is fear. It's not even her husband, it's fear. Her dragon is. She wants all of her love to come from her daughter because it's safe. Love. If she had other forms of love in her life, she wouldn't be in this fearful place, right? So she needs to slay her giant. She needs to change what needs to be changed. It's a belief, it's an emotion, it's a pattern, it's a habit, it's all it is. And we're going to do that this week. Or you go get the skills that are necessary, you do the hard work again. Why does Steph Curry make shots from half court? Look. And make it look effortless because he's done it two and a half million times. But all the shots he's ever taken, his career is only 16,000 and he's made only 3,000 of those. And he's the greatest shooter in the history of the game. That's what it means to do the hard work. If you're not doing the hard work, you're not going to get the result. It's not enough. You know what you want, it's not enough that you know what stopped you, or you got a good plan, you got to do that plan. You got to go make it. You got to get the result. And when you slay the dragon, you will transform. And the dragon is almost always an emotion or a limiting belief. Now, all you did, you go to step five. You want to keep the momentum. You need a daily practice so that now there's something you little you do every day that keeps you moving forward. Some kind of daily practice that will guarantee progress. Progress will lead to what you want. And then six, once you do that, you just need to keep raising the standard a little bit, get a little better, demand a little more. And by the way, you can only do that if you measure things. If you're in business. If you don't measure it, you're not managing it. If I take over a company, I got 111 companies now. How do you run 111 companies? Because I go in those companies, I figure out what are the most important things and. And I measure them more often. It's the first thing I do. Some people measure things once a year so they have bad years. If I only measure once a month, I'm gonna do 12 times better. I got 12 times to improve instead of one. You might have bad months, but you're not gonna have a bad year. If I measure it weekly, you're not gonna have a bad month. If I measure it daily, you won't have many bad weeks. Some things, when I first take over a company, I'll measure them three times a day. And where focus goes, energy, what. So you have to measure what's going on. Am I making progress? And then raise the standard. I expect a little bit more from myself. And then the seventh step, you're there. The seventh step in all, this is really simple. You're on your path. Flip it up there for everybody. But now what you're doing is you want to celebrate it, right? Life's a gift. So you want to celebrate and you want to appreciate where you are, because otherwise, you're always trying to do something. It's good to stop and celebrate. Because the brain goes, it was worth it. And if it's worth it and I'm celebrated and I build on success, guess what the end of the step is? You're going to pick what's the next level. You'll start this again. What do I want now? Isn't that cool? Oh, what's preventing me from getting that level? Okay, what's some quick actions? I could do that all Right. What dragon's no idea. Slay. And while I'm gonna do it. What skill? What? Oh, okay. All right. Daily practice. Keep measuring it. Win again. This is how you do it with anything. How many of you have an area you've done really well within your life, an area you're proud of. This is the game for anything. So if I want to know whether I'm on the path or not, and I don't even know what I want, I'm not even on the path yet. I start there. If I know what I want, why I want it, great. What's the next thing? Let me figure out the truth. What's the gap? What's kept me from where I am? What's gotten the way in the past I need to handle. Okay, let me create a quick map. All right. Let me go slay that dragon. Let me get some daily practice. Let me keep raising the standard. Let me win again. This is what I do in all the areas of my life. And it's so simple. So it's in your relationship. That's true. I don't have the relationship I want. Well, I got to start with, what do you really want, Sam?