Child Custody Advice - Judges Don't Love Your Children Like You Do

23 Jun 2020 · 2 min

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In this short video, Scott Levin, founding partner of San Diego Divorce, Mediation, and Family Law, shares a courtroom anecdote in which a judge, frustrated with two parents who cannot agree on a custody plan, asks each parent if they love their child, receives affirmative answers, and then declares that he does not love the child, urging the parents to resolve the issue outside the courtroom. Levin uses the story to illustrate that judges, despite their authority, cannot love a child the way a parent does, and therefore the best outcome for the child is for the parents to work together amicably. He advises divorcing parents to negotiate custody matters through mediation rather than litigation, emphasizing that parents’ love for their child should guide the process. The video concludes with a brief promotion of Levin’s firm, noting that its attorneys are certified divorce financial analysts who practice exclusively in mediation to serve families more effectively.

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Ready? Hi everybody, this is Scott Levin, founding partner at San Diego Divorce, Mediation, and Family Law, here with my almost 2-year-old Seth. He's my third, that's why I forgot his name almost there. But I wanted to include him in this video as a point. I recently recounted a story with a friend of mine, and it basically goes like this. A judge was really getting frustrated With 2 parties that could not figure out their child custody plan. And so the judge asked, madam, do you love your child? And she of course said yes. And then he looked at the husband and said, sir, do you love your child? And he said, yes, Your Honor. And then the judge said, I do not love your child, so go outside and figure this out. And it's just so true. It's such a story. It's such a poignant statement. You know, courts and judges, they try their best, but they don't love your children. This guy— no judge could love this child like I love this child and like my wife loves this child. And then if we do break up someday, we hope that we'll love this child more than any judge could. And that means that my advice to you is to work out your issues during divorce in an amicable way and just figure it out. I even love him when he's doing that. Ooh! All right, guys, you stay safe. And Scott Levin here at San Diego Divorce and Family Law. We are full-time peacekeepers. So we are attorneys who are certified divorce financial analysts, but who practice exclusively in mediation for the betterment of all of you out there. All right, take care.