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3 WORDS Every Parent Should Use

Name: 3 WORDS Every Parent Should Use
Uploaded: 2025-10-16T19:43:04+00:00
Duration: 1 min 12 s
Channel: Shanli Liu, CPA, CTP
Description: In this short parenting‑advice monologue, Shanli Liu emphasizes that the single phrase “I believe you” should be a daily staple for parents. She explains…

16 Oct 2025 · 1 min

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In this short parenting‑advice monologue, Shanli Liu emphasizes that the single phrase “I believe you” should be a daily staple for parents. She explains that children, especially in difficult moments, crave belief in their internal emotional experience. By verbally validating a child’s feelings—telling them that what they feel is real—parents provide the essential belief and acceptance that underpins emotional regulation, resilience, and confidence. Liu argues that this simple affirmation prevents emotional spirals, helps children stay calm, and ultimately equips them to believe in themselves as adults, delivering a high return on emotional investment for families.

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I think there are 3 words that I would wish every single parent to say to their kid, like, almost every day. I believe you. In almost every hard moment with our kids, they're really just looking to be believed. Our feelings are just so different from other hard moments or hard things that happen. Like, if you run and trip and skin your knee and you're like, ouch, right? That, like, really hurts. You see blood. Like, you see the scrape. It is so obvious externally what happened, right? Validating feelings is essentially like saying to a kid, I believe that what you are experiencing what you're experiencing is real inside of you. I feel like what you're saying to them is you are real, which is kind of the thing we're all fighting to feel in our worst moments. Because you know what helps a kid when they're an adult take a small moment and stay calm instead of making it into their whole day? It's their ability to believe themself. I believe myself. This thing really is hard. Once you do that and something inside your own body, you generally can move on. Like, it doesn't spiral because it's not looking for the thing it needs, which is just belief and acceptance. When you say I believe you, what you're actually saying to them is I believe that the things you feel are real. And that is the basis of regulation, resilience, and confidence. So you get like a lot of bang for your buck every time you use it.