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ATTN WOMEN Stop blaming your problems on being a woman..

Name: **ATTN WOMEN** Stop blaming your problems on being a woman..
Uploaded: 2022-05-16T23:53:18+00:00
Duration: 57 s
Channel: Shanli Liu, CPA, CTP
Description: In this spoken segment, the speaker recounts a coaching session with a female leader who believed she was not respected at work because she was a woman…

16 May 2022 · 1 min

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In this spoken segment, the speaker recounts a coaching session with a female leader who believed she was not respected at work because she was a woman. The coach challenges this attribution, pointing out the inconsistency of the claim (the coach, a man, is respected) and suggesting that the real issue may be the leader's inability to command respect. The conversation frames gender as a convenient external excuse that masks personal deficits. The coach emphasizes that earning respect is a skill applicable to any audience, regardless of gender, and that the leader needs to develop the ability to command respect in a room. The narrative serves as a broader admonition to women (and anyone) to take personal accountability for workplace dynamics rather than defaulting to gender-based explanations.

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I had a female leader come to me. She felt as though people in the workplace were not respecting her. She said, you know, I really just think it's because I'm a woman. And I said, well, maybe, like, maybe they just don't respect women. However, they respect me, so that doesn't really make much sense to me, right? Because if they didn't respect all women, then you and I would be equal in that plane, whether I'm, you know, higher in the company or not. The second piece of that is maybe it's the fact that you don't command respect. And maybe saying that it's because you're a woman is a very convenient excuse to cover your other deficits. And she was like, oh crap, you're freaking right. And I was like, yes, we've been working on this anyways. We've been working on the fact that you need to command respect from a room, whether it's men or women, it's irrelevant. But that's a skill that we've been trying to work on. I said, you're just pointing to the most convenient thing possible to blame, to say, this is what it is, it's not me, it's this thing outside of me.