When a friendship ends badly, stop trying to rebuild the bridge. Be a lighthouse instead: keep shining your light steadily into the world, unchanged by who's no longer there. That light might be seen again someday, or it might not. Either way, it doesn't dim.
Explain that a little bit more. If I can't be a bridge, be a lighthouse.
Be a lighthouse. Yeah, so let's say you and I been friends and we have a big fallout. Despite what I say, and I'm really trying to mend this relationship, and it's just not happening. You've written me off. It's not working out. The bridge is really burned. Well, that's okay. I'm still gonna be a lighthouse. Maybe I'll see you in 5 years. Maybe I'll see you in 15 years when life It's happened to both of us. But I'm not going to change the light that I'm going to put out into the world just because our bridge was burned.
Or the light you wish that other person.
Yes, yeah, absolutely. And so when you have these values, and every one of us has a value, and that's how you handle your conversations, because it allows you to, I don't have to worry about decisions. The values make the decisions for me.
