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Don't Listen To These People

Name: Don't Listen To These People
Uploaded: 2024-11-21T15:01:02+00:00
Duration: 57 s
Channel: Shanli Liu, CPA, CTP
Description: In this monologue, the speaker argues that you should seek guidance from individuals whose goals align with yours rather than those merely close to you…

21 Nov 2024 · 1 min

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In this monologue, the speaker argues that you should seek guidance from individuals whose goals align with yours rather than those merely close to you socially. Citing a Harvard study linking net worth to reference groups, they differentiate between the five people you spend the most time with and the five you compare yourself to, emphasizing the latter as more influential. The talk explores how humans are conditioned from childhood to accept others' opinions, leading many adults to later realize that early advisors were misguided. The speaker stresses that adulthood involves unlearning inherited advice and adopting beliefs only when you can personally justify them; otherwise, those beliefs belong to someone else.

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You have to listen to the people who are closest to your goals, not closest to you. There's, you know, that famous Harvard study that found out that people's net worth was correlated with their reference group. Now, a lot of people mistakenly say it's the 5 people you spend the most time with, but I believe it's the 5 people you compare yourself to. Fundamentally, the people that are in your surroundings, if they don't have what you want, don't listen to what they say. And I think it's hard to do because as humans, we're social creatures and we learn to listen to the opinions of others. When you're a child, you say, is this good or bad? An adult says, that's good, that's bad. And you kind of incorporate and that's how you learn how to make your way in the world. Then you become an adult and you realize that some of the people who gave you your good and bad advice are actually morons because you meet them now and it's Doug and you're like, Doug's an idiot. I listened to Doug. It's like, well, I was 8 years old and I didn't know any better. But I think honestly, a lot of adulthood is fundamentally unlearning things and choosing to know that you believe your beliefs for your own reasons. And so I think that if you cannot explain why you believe what you believe, it's not your belief, it's someone else's.