Don't take it personally
In this solo spoken piece, trial attorney Jefferson Fisher explains why people often take remarks in arguments as personal attacks and how that habit fuels a self‑fulfilling negative narrative. He describes the ego‑driven pattern where an observed slight is interpreted as intentional hostility, turning a fleeting thought into a perceived truth. Fisher then shares a practical self‑talk technique he uses in his legal work: silently saying, “put it down, Jefferson,” whenever he notices himself internalising a comment. By consciously “putting it down,” he reports increased self‑confidence, greater peace of mind, and a more generous tendency to give others the benefit of the doubt. The piece serves as a brief instructional guide encouraging listeners to adopt this habit to improve emotional resilience during arguments.
