The concept of fairness is fictional and demanding it from an indifferent universe causes harm. A mother seal watches orcas devour her pups instantly, with no moral consideration. Accepting that the world doesn't care is more empowering than clinging to the idea that things should be fair.
It's not fair. I shouldn't have to. I should. It should. Things shouldn't. It's all shoulds. Should, in my worldview, should not exist because should creates expectations of an uncaring universe. It says that you demand something, and I promise you that the universe will win. All you have to do is watch, like, baby seals just get immediately eaten by orcas after, like, a mother is laying there on the ice to be like, wow, life isn't fair. I'm sure that seal could be like, It's not fair that my babies were literally eaten in front of me. Tough. They have mammal brains. We can see that they got, they got some feelings. Does demanding that it should be fair make you stronger? No.
