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How to ACTUALLY accomplish your goals...and stay sane...

Name: How to ACTUALLY accomplish your goals...and stay sane...
Uploaded: 2022-05-07T21:57:05+00:00
Duration: 59 s
Channel: Shanli Liu, CPA, CTP
Description: In this motivational monologue, the speaker argues that setbacks are essential for long-term success and should be reframed as opportunities to prove…

7 May 2022 · 1 min

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In this motivational monologue, the speaker argues that setbacks are essential for long-term success and should be reframed as opportunities to prove one’s capability. They critique the common approach of creating perfect conditions for goal achievement, using weight loss as an example, and suggest deliberately maintaining normal social habits (eating out, meeting friends, traveling) while pursuing the goal to build confidence. The speaker also recommends intentionally seeking out hard conversations—despite anxiety—to desensitize oneself to discomfort and strengthen resilience. By repeatedly confronting adverse circumstances and challenging interactions, individuals can develop greater self‑belief and sustain progress toward their objectives.

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One of the most powerful beliefs that has served me: setbacks are necessary for long-term success. Because every time now I see a setback, I'm like, oh, it's a chance to prove to myself all the reasons why I can do this. In your mind, right, when you set a goal, you typically put all these like perfect conditions around the goal. It's like, well, in order to achieve this goal, I'm going to need to do all these 7 things, and I'm going to have to have these perfect circumstances. A good example would be weight loss. Most people, when they're trying to lose weight, they go ahead and they're like, I'm going to avoid eating out, I'm going to avoid going and doing things with friends, They're going to avoid traveling, all this stuff, right? But like, what if you said instead of avoiding all those things, like, I'm going to lose weight and I'm going to eat out every day and I'm going to see my friends 3 times a week, all whilst losing weight. How much more confident do you think you would be in your ability to lose weight if you just quickly face those adverse circumstances willingly? Like having hard conversations. If you haven't had a lot of them, go ahead and line them up. Oh, but I get so nervous and I like can't sleep the night before. I'm sweating and I'm anxious and like, I just sound like an idiot. And it's like, cool, then do 7 in a row and see how you feel. And do them with the people who make you even the most nervous.