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How to argue like a lawyer pt3

Name: How to argue like a lawyer pt3
Uploaded: 2022-07-20T01:58:30+00:00
Duration: 55 s
Channel: Shanli Liu, CPA, CTP
Description: In this short instructional video, the speaker explains that most spoken complaints are merely symptoms of deeper, unaddressed issues. Using a relatable…

20 Jul 2022 · 1 min

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In this short instructional video, the speaker explains that most spoken complaints are merely symptoms of deeper, unaddressed issues. Using a relatable example of a household chore dispute, she illustrates that the real problem may be feelings of fatigue, overwhelm, and underappreciation. She outlines a three‑step approach to uncover the true issue: (1) be quiet, (2) listen, and (3) repeatedly ask “why,” probing each answer until the underlying cause emerges. She stresses the importance of validating the other person’s feelings rather than dismissing them, arguing that solving the root issue resolves the surrounding conflicts. The advice is presented as applicable to both personal and professional settings.

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How to argue like a lawyer, part 3. Now the key takeaway here is find the issue. What I didn't say is go into attack mode. I said find the issue. And 99.9% of the time, what is spoken is rarely the true issue. It's only a symptom of it. For example, it's not so much that you forgot to bring that dirty dish to the sink, it's that she's tired, she's overwhelmed, she wants to feel like she has a partner in this, and she feels underappreciated. You can apply this to any situation, whether it's at home or at work, but what you are hearing is not what you are getting underneath. It's just the tip of the iceberg. Now, how do you find the issue? Number 1, be quiet. Number 2, listen. Number 3, ask why. They'll give you an answer, ask why. They'll give you another answer, ask why. Why is that? How so? Explain that to me differently. The worst thing you can do is act like their feelings are not justified. Solve that issue, you can solve everything else. Follow me.