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How to Be Less Emotionally Reactive #shorts

Name: How to Be Less Emotionally Reactive #shorts
Uploaded: 2024-03-27T19:00:02+00:00
Duration: 55 s
Channel: Shanli Liu, CPA, CTP
Description: In this short instructional video, the speaker presents three concise techniques for reducing emotional reactivity. First, they advise adopting a learner…

27 Mar 2024 · 1 min

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In this short instructional video, the speaker presents three concise techniques for reducing emotional reactivity. First, they advise adopting a learner mindset—focusing on discovering the right question rather than proving a point—using the analogy of giving directions to a friend. Second, they suggest pausing overreactions by verbalizing feelings in the present tense with phrases like “I can feel…,” which externalizes the emotion and restores control. Third, they encourage treating personal triggers as opportunities for self‑reflection, asking what a trigger reveals about one’s own beliefs or insecurities rather than attributing the reaction to others. The overall message is to shift perspective, verbalize emotions, and use triggers for personal insight to become less reactive.

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How to be less emotionally reactive. Number 1: Have something to learn, not something to prove. Imagine calling a friend and giving them directions to your house. You can't lead them to where you are without first understanding where they're coming from. In the same way, care more about finding the right question than you do about finding the right answer. Number 2: Stop the overreactions. You can do that by speaking in present tense with the phrase "I can feel." So for example, "When I hear you say that, I can feel myself getting defensive. I can feel myself getting worked up." When you say it out loud, it you control the reaction rather than letting that reaction control you. And number 3, what triggers you teaches you. That means you have to get really comfortable with the question, what does that say about me? It's real easy to think when somebody does something or says something you don't like, what it says about them. But what does it say about you? Yes, people will push your buttons, but why is there a button there in the first place? When you take the time to answer that question, you'll be less emotionally reactive. So try that, but follow me.