Shanli Liu teaches that breathing before you respond is the first step to less reactive communication. That pause between what someone says and what you say gives your brain time to settle and lets the analytical part take over instead of reacting on impulse.
You can't say anything about what I teach you. None of it matters if you do not say it with control. If you do not first regulate yourself. Rule number 1 in my book is you use your breath as the first word that you say. And the reason why is because it adds a distance between what they say and how you respond, which gives you time to regulate yourself. It allows the other person to calm down theirs as well. Gives time for that analytical side to take over.
