How to Cross Examine a Narcissist

From an attorney, here's how to cross-examine a narcissist. Number 1, call their bluff every time. If you don't, they're going to use that as an anger point to try and later bluff you again. One thing that helps me when somebody is trying to bluff me, usually it's like a negative threat of some kind, is I will calmly say, if you think that's a good look, or so you think that's okay. The only way for them to defend against those statements is to back off. Number 2, point out every contradiction. You are sending the signal that you are not someone to play games with. Now, the only real way to do that is to keep track of what they say. That way when they tell you, "I never said that," you have evidence to back you up. Number 3, don't let them deflect the subject. It's like every question that you ask, they're gonna be trying to bring you somewhere else. You keep them on the facts. The best way to do that is to slow your words, and actually if you can, just use one word. So if they go off topic, I'm gonna slow my words down and say, "The call. I am asking about the call." I'm telling them that I'm not going anywhere. So try that and follow me.