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How to Get Someone to Lower Their Voice #shorts

Name: How to Get Someone to Lower Their Voice #shorts
Uploaded: 2023-12-04T05:42:30+00:00
Duration: 54 s
Channel: Shanli Liu, CPA, CTP
Description: In this short instructional video, the speaker offers three concrete techniques for encouraging someone who is speaking loudly to lower their volume…

4 Dec 2023 · 1 min

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In this short instructional video, the speaker offers three concrete techniques for encouraging someone who is speaking loudly to lower their volume. First, they advise deliberately speaking even softer yourself; this triggers a natural tendency for the other person to match your lowered tone. Second, they recommend focusing on the volume rather than the person, using language like “your voice” or “your volume” instead of “you” to avoid putting the listener on the defensive. Third, they suggest setting explicit boundaries by stating the desired volume level or describing the impact of the loudness, such as asking the speaker to “dial it back down to a 2” or explaining that a raised voice makes you lose track of the conversation. The overall message is to use calm, precise, and non‑confrontational communication to guide others toward a more moderate speaking level.

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How to get someone to lower their voice. Number 1, if somebody's talking really loud or even yelling at you, instead of raising your voice to match theirs, lower your voice even more. See, we humans have a natural frequency of conversation. That's why we're not going around yelling all the time or whispering all the time. So what you do when you lower your voice is you isolate theirs, and without them thinking, they will lower their voice to match the frequency. Number 2, focus on the person, not their voice. So instead of saying "you," which will make them defensive, like, "You're being too loud," instead try, your voice or your volume. For example, "I can't focus when your voice is that loud," or "Your volume is so high." And number 3, assert a boundary around how you want people to talk to you. For example, "If you want this conversation to continue, I need you to dial it back down to a 2," or "When you talk that loud to me, when you raise your voice, I get lost in what you're saying. Is there a chance we can keep our volume right here?" So try that and follow me.