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How to Handle a Hothead #shorts

Name: How to Handle a Hothead #shorts
Uploaded: 2023-12-22T20:00:13+00:00
Duration: 38 s
Channel: Shanli Liu, CPA, CTP
Description: In this concise instructional video, Shanli Liu, CPA, CTP, outlines three practical steps for defusing an angry person, referred to as a “hothead.”…

22 Dec 2023 · 1 min

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In this concise instructional video, Shanli Liu, CPA, CTP, outlines three practical steps for defusing an angry person, referred to as a “hothead.” First, she advises not interrupting the person, using a balloon metaphor to illustrate the need to let their anger “deflate” before addressing the issue. Second, she suggests asking the individual to repeat what they said, which prevents them from re‑venting and encourages a calmer re‑articulation. Third, she recommends employing fact‑based questions that start with what, why, or where, prompting the person to shift from an emotional response to analytical thinking, thereby cooling the situation. The video concludes with an encouragement to try these techniques.

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How to handle a hothead. Number 1: Don't interrupt. Let them get it all out first. Think of a balloon. If you interrupt them, you prevent them from venting, meaning there's anger still in there. So you got to let them deflate first. Number 2: Ask them to repeat it. All you have to say is, "Can you please tell me that again?" And the magic here is you've already deflated the balloon, so they can't vent again. What they'll do is just readjust themselves to speak more calmly. And number 3: Use questions of fact. Those are questions that begin with what, why, or where. For example, When did this happen again? It allows their emotional side to go quiet while the analytical side takes over and it cools them down. And that's how to handle a hothead. So try that and follow me.