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How to handle crying in an argument #shorts

Name: How to handle crying in an argument #shorts
Uploaded: 2024-05-08T19:00:28+00:00
Duration: 43 s
Channel: Shanli Liu, CPA, CTP
Description: In this short video, Shanli Liu, CPA, CTP, argues that crying during an argument is an involuntary bodily response that cannot be controlled, and…

8 May 2024 · 1 min

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In this short video, Shanli Liu, CPA, CTP, argues that crying during an argument is an involuntary bodily response that cannot be controlled, and therefore should not be apologized for. She contends that apologizing for tears makes the emotion the focus of the discussion and distracts from the argument’s substance. Instead, she advises simply wiping away tears without comment and continuing to make your point directly, treating the crying as a neutral physical event rather than a conversational pivot.

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If you cry in your arguments, watch this. So there's a ton of information out there about how to stop crying. I just think it's bogus. Crying is just something your body does. I can't control if I have an itch. I can't control if I'm blushing and my ears turn red. The only thing that I can control is if I allow those things to distract me. So the next time you feel tears welling up in an argument, do not say, "I'm sorry I'm crying. I just— I'm sorry." Don't. You owe nobody an apology for feeling human. And when you apologize like that, you're making it the focal point. You're making it the distraction. Instead, when you feel tears well up, just wipe them away as if nothing happened and stay directly on your point. So try that and follow me.