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How to Handle Toxic People #shorts

Name: How to Handle Toxic People #shorts
Uploaded: 2023-12-05T01:16:12+00:00
Duration: 53 s
Channel: Shanli Liu, CPA, CTP
Description: In this concise self‑help video, Shanli Liu, CPA, CTP, outlines three actionable tactics for dealing with toxic individuals. First, she advises "doubt…

5 Dec 2023 · 1 min

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In this concise self‑help video, Shanli Liu, CPA, CTP, outlines three actionable tactics for dealing with toxic individuals. First, she advises "doubt them" by using skeptical language (e.g., "I'm not sure about that") to signal that you will not feed their drama. Second, she recommends "delay them"—responding with phrases like "I'll have to think on that"—to withhold immediate reinforcement, reducing their control and dopamine hit, often causing them to seek another target. Third, she suggests "add distance" by physically removing yourself or limiting time spent with the person, which both protects you and signals that their toxic behavior is not a priority. The video ends with a call to follow her for more advice.

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How to handle toxic people. Number 1, doubt them. Their interest in you goes only as far as the attention you give them. So if they come to you with drama, rather than diving in headfirst, doubt what they have to say. It's as easy as using different variations of I'm not sure, like I'm not sure about that. But what you're really saying is if you're looking for drama and looking for attention, I ain't the one. And number 2, delay them. They're coming to you for immediate reaction. That's how they maintain control over the conversation. But if you delay that reaction with something like I'll have to think on that, or I'll have to get back with you on that, they don't get that hit of dopamine. It's not nearly as satisfying, and 9 times out of 10, they'll go find somebody else to talk to. Number 3: add distance. Put distance between you and the other person, whether physically, meaning you go to a different location, or in time, meaning you limit the amount of time you spend with them. Not only does it protect you, but it also signals that time with them and their toxic behavior is not the priority. So try that, but follow me.