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How to Improve your Emotional IQ

Name: How to Improve your Emotional IQ
Uploaded: 2025-01-20T13:00:52+00:00
Duration: 57 s
Channel: Shanli Liu, CPA, CTP
Description: In this instructional segment, the speaker outlines the primary method for boosting emotional intelligence: shifting from reacting to feelings toward…

20 Jan 2025 · 1 min

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In this instructional segment, the speaker outlines the primary method for boosting emotional intelligence: shifting from reacting to feelings toward responding to them. She explains that low emotional IQ individuals immediately display their upset emotions through tone and words, whereas high emotional IQ individuals pause, identify the source of the feeling, and then articulate it using clear, controlled language (e.g., “When you said that, I felt upset”). By processing emotions first and then claiming them with “I‑statements,” a person gains control over their feelings and appears more emotionally intelligent. The speaker encourages viewers to practice this approach.

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The number one way to improve your emotional IQ. Instead of reacting off how you feel, you will respond to how you feel, meaning you will say what you feel when you feel it. Let me give you an example. Let's assume you're in a conversation with someone and they say something that upsets you. Those with low emotional IQ immediately put those feelings on display. They are reacting. You hear it in the sound of their voice. Maybe they sound a lot more short. Maybe they say something that's ugly. Maybe they close off their position. They are reacting. But those with high emotional IQ will think about it. They have a filter of process of asking, where is this feeling coming from? And they say what they feel when they feel it. And that sounds like, when you said that, I can tell that upset me, or I feel upset when I hear about X, Y, and Z. You are giving it process, because when you claim it, you control it, and you'll sound a lot more emotionally intelligent. So try that and follow me.