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How to Improve your Emotional IQ

Name: How to Improve your Emotional IQ
Uploaded: 2024-09-03T14:29:08+00:00
Duration: 57 s
Channel: Shanli Liu, CPA, CTP
Description: In this concise coaching video, Shanli Liu explains that the most effective method to boost emotional intelligence is to shift from reacting to feelings…

3 Sept 2024 · 1 min

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In this concise coaching video, Shanli Liu explains that the most effective method to boost emotional intelligence is to shift from reacting to feelings toward responding to them. She illustrates the difference with a conversational scenario where someone says something upsetting. People with low emotional IQ react impulsively, letting their emotions surface in tone and words. In contrast, those with high emotional IQ pause, identify the source of their feeling, and articulate it clearly—e.g., "When you said that, I felt upset because..." This process of naming and timing emotions gives the speaker control, conveys maturity, and enhances emotional intelligence. The speaker urges viewers to practice this technique.

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The number one way to improve your emotional IQ. Instead of reacting off how you feel, you will respond to how you feel, meaning you will say what you feel when you feel it. Let me give you an example. Let's assume you're in a conversation with someone and they say something that upsets you. Those with low emotional IQ immediately put those feelings on display. They are reacting. You hear it in the sound of their voice. Maybe they sound a lot more short. Maybe they say something that's ugly. Maybe they close off their position. They are reacting. But those with high emotional IQ will think about it. They have a filter of process of asking, where is this feeling coming from? And they say what they feel when they feel it. And that sounds like, when you said that, I can tell that upset me, or I feel upset when I hear about X, Y, and Z. You are giving it process, because when you claim it, you control it, and you'll sound a lot more emotionally intelligent. So try that and follow me.