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How to know if YOU are gaslighting someone

Name: How to know if YOU are gaslighting someone
Uploaded: 2026-02-17T15:45:34+00:00
Duration: 52 s
Channel: Shanli Liu, CPA, CTP
Description: In this brief monologue, Shanli Liu, CPA, CTP explains the warning signs that indicate a person may be gaslighting others. She describes a mindset where…

17 Feb 2026 · 1 min

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In this brief monologue, Shanli Liu, CPA, CTP explains the warning signs that indicate a person may be gaslighting others. She describes a mindset where the speaker always sees themselves as the victor, never apologizes, insists they are always right, and makes the other person doubt their own reality. The speaker highlights that when the conversational "scales" always tip in one's favor, and the other party feels apologetic while the speaker feels justified, these are classic patterns of gaslighting behavior.

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How can you tell if you're gaslighting somebody? If at the end of the conversation you have to walk away as the victor, it can only be your truth, you're the only one that's right, the other person is doubting themselves at the end of the conversation, yet you are completely sure of yourself, they feel apologetic and you feel like you absolutely deserved every bit of an apology and you don't have to offer anything. You see how off-kilter that is when the scales just absolutely always put you on top. You're never part of the problem, you never have to apologize, you know everything, only your experience is the right one, you're the one who has the final say, the final answer, you always have to be right, anything that they say is irrational, illogical, unreasonable, crazy, insane, I'm gonna have to break it to you, you're most likely delving into a behavior of gaslighting the other person in your life.