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how to not get defensive pt3

Name: how to not get defensive pt3
Uploaded: 2023-02-11T21:51:57+00:00
Duration: 43 s
Channel: Shanli Liu, CPA, CTP
Description: In this short instructional video, Texas attorney Jefferson Fisher explains how to avoid becoming defensive during arguments. He emphasizes that another…

11 Feb 2023 · 1 min

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In this short instructional video, Texas attorney Jefferson Fisher explains how to avoid becoming defensive during arguments. He emphasizes that another person's words are not your responsibility to return, likening conversation to a sport where you don’t have to hit the ball back. Instead, he advises letting the other person's words “fall to the ground” by inserting deliberate pauses, taking big breaths, and waiting about ten seconds before responding. This pause creates space for the other person to reconsider their statement, allowing the speaker to regain control of the exchange. Fisher concludes by encouraging viewers to try the technique and follow him for more communication tips.

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How to not get defensive in your next argument. My name is Jefferson Fisher. I'm an attorney down in Texas, and I teach people how to argue and communicate. Now, I don't know if anybody's told you this, but other people's words are not your responsibility to carry. It's not tennis or volleyball. You don't have to hit it back over a net. Instead of getting defensive and catching it and throwing it back, just let it fall to the ground. Let their words fall to the ground like a piano note that is ending its sustain. All right, and you do that by adding pauses into the argument. So big breaths, and just wait 10 seconds and get in that other person's head. Make them think, is this really what I want to say? Make them rethink their words. Let that pause linger. And when you do that, you take back control. So try that and follow me for more tips.