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How to Not Get Defensive #shorts

Name: How to Not Get Defensive #shorts
Uploaded: 2024-04-29T19:00:03+00:00
Duration: 39 s
Channel: Shanli Liu, CPA, CTP
Description: In this short motivational clip, the speaker advises viewers on how to avoid becoming defensive during arguments. The core message is that individuals…

29 Apr 2024 · 1 min

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In this short motivational clip, the speaker advises viewers on how to avoid becoming defensive during arguments. The core message is that individuals have the power to decide the significance they assign to others' words, and they should not let negative comments accumulate like a heavy book. By consciously controlling the breath—inhale for four seconds and exhale for four seconds—the listener can create a pause that diminishes the impact of the other person's words, regain emotional control, and let the criticism pass without reacting. The speaker encourages the audience to practice this breathing technique, drop the mental weight of others' remarks, and follow the suggested approach to stay calm and in control during disagreements.

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How to not get defensive in your next argument. Stop carrying the weight of other people's words. Maybe you didn't know, but you get to decide if what somebody says means anything to you at all. You get to decide the weight, the value that you put on their words. And too often what somebody says isn't worth the paper if you wrote it down, yet we hold it and collect it. And before you know it, we're carrying a book. Drop it. Just because they throw a pitch doesn't mean you have to swing. Let it go by. And you do that by controlling your breath. 4 seconds in, 4 seconds out. And when you do that, you force them to watch their words sink into silence, and you take back control. So try that and follow me.