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How to Not Take it Personally #shorts

Name: How to Not Take it Personally #shorts
Uploaded: 2024-06-16T19:00:10+00:00
Duration: 44 s
Channel: Shanli Liu, CPA, CTP
Description: In this short video, trial attorney Jefferson Fisher explains why taking things personally during arguments creates a self‑fulfilling negative cycle…

16 Jun 2024 · 1 min

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In this short video, trial attorney Jefferson Fisher explains why taking things personally during arguments creates a self‑fulfilling negative cycle driven by ego. He describes how we mistakenly assume another’s actions are intentionally directed at us, which turns a negative thought into a perceived truth. Fisher shares a simple mental reset he uses in his legal work: the mantra “put it down.” By consciously telling himself to put the personal reaction aside, he reports increased self‑confidence, peace of mind, and a habit of giving others the benefit of the doubt. He encourages viewers to adopt the same practice to become more generous and less reactive in future arguments.

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How to not take it personally in your next argument. My name is Jefferson Fisher. I'm a trial attorney and I teach people how to argue and communicate. When you take things personally, you are picking up what nobody has asked you to carry. It becomes a self-fulfilling prophecy where our ego says that that other person's action had to have been intended directly towards us negatively. That negative thought then becomes a negative truth. Now what I do that helps me in my line of work is I have to remind myself and say the phrase, put it down. Put it down, Jefferson. So when I pick up something personally, I have to put it down. And when I do, I find that my self-confidence goes up, my peace of mind goes up, and there's almost nothing more self-healing about getting these habits that have me want to be generous with giving benefits of the doubt. So try that and follow me.