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How to not take it personally

Name: How to not take it personally
Uploaded: 2024-12-13T14:00:27+00:00
Duration: 44 s
Channel: Shanli Liu, CPA, CTP
Description: In this short monologue, trial attorney Jefferson Fisher explains that taking things personally during arguments means assuming others' actions are…

13 Dec 2024 · 1 min

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In this short monologue, trial attorney Jefferson Fisher explains that taking things personally during arguments means assuming others' actions are intentionally directed at you, which creates a self‑fulfilling negative cycle. He describes how this mindset burdens you with unnecessary emotional weight. Fisher offers a practical habit: the phrase “put it down.” By consciously telling himself to put the perceived slight down, he reduces personal attachment, which he says boosts self‑confidence, peace of mind, and encourages generosity and giving others the benefit of the doubt. He invites listeners to try this technique in their own arguments.

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How to not take it personally in your next argument. My name is Jefferson Fisher. I'm a trial attorney and I teach people how to argue and communicate. When you take things personally, you are picking up what nobody has asked you to carry. It becomes a self-fulfilling prophecy where our ego says that that other person's action had to have been intended directly towards us negatively. That negative thought then becomes a negative truth. Now what I do that helps me in my line of work is I have to remind myself and say the phrase, put it down. Put it down, Jefferson. So when I pick up something personally, I have to put it down. And when I do, I find that my self-confidence goes up, my peace of mind goes up, and there's almost nothing more self-healing about getting these habits that have me want to be generous with giving benefits of the doubt. So try that and follow me.