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How to Respectfully Disagree #shorts

Name: How to Respectfully Disagree #shorts
Uploaded: 2024-01-21T18:00:03+00:00
Duration: 52 s
Channel: Shanli Liu, CPA, CTP
Description: In this short instructional video, the speaker explains why directly saying "I disagree" can trigger defensiveness and be perceived as a challenge. To…

21 Jan 2024 · 1 min

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In this short instructional video, the speaker explains why directly saying "I disagree" can trigger defensiveness and be perceived as a challenge. To foster more collaborative conversations, she proposes three alternative phrases: (1) "I take another approach," which signals shared goals but different methods; (2) "I see things differently," which acknowledges differing perspectives; and (3) "I tend to lean the opposite," which frames the disagreement as a personal tendency rather than a direct challenge. Each phrase is described with its intended effect on reducing confrontation, and viewers are encouraged to use these alternatives to disagree respectfully.

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How to respectfully disagree. When you tell somebody, "I don't agree," or, "I disagree," their body will often take that as a threat, as a challenge. They feel shot down and they'll get defensive. Even if you say, "I respectfully disagree," there's nothing really respectful about it. Instead, opt for these 3 phrases. Number 1, "I take another approach." What you're saying is we still have the same goal. We still want the best for whatever it is, our family, our company, the country. We just have different ways of getting there. Number 2, "I see things differently." What you're saying is you have your perspective, I have my perspective, and because I'm not where you are, I don't see what you see. And number 3, "I tend to lean the opposite." What you're saying is instead of challenging them, instead of saying, "I don't agree with you," you're saying that your answer relies upon a history of what you typically do or how you tend to think, which keeps it from getting confrontational. And that's how to respectfully disagree. So try that and follow me.