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How to Respond to "Don't Be So Sensitive"

Name: How to Respond to "Don't Be So Sensitive"
Uploaded: 2025-01-13T13:00:48+00:00
Duration: 58 s
Channel: Shanli Liu, CPA, CTP
Description: In this instructional segment, the speaker outlines a three‑step method for handling remarks like “Don’t be so sensitive.” First, avoid getting…

13 Jan 2025 · 1 min

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In this instructional segment, the speaker outlines a three‑step method for handling remarks like “Don’t be so sensitive.” First, avoid getting defensive, as it weakens your position. Second, reframe the response by starting with the verb “sense,” e.g., “No, I’m only sensing…”. Third, use that phrasing to flip the original comment back onto the speaker, turning a criticism into a neutral observation about their behavior or standards. The speaker provides concrete examples for jokes and inappropriate remarks, emphasizing that this approach keeps you calm, in control, and appears confident.

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How to respond when someone says, "Don't be so sensitive." The next time that someone calls you sensitive after saying something they shouldn't say, I'm going to teach you what to do. Number 1, don't get defensive because it plays right into their hand and creates a weaker position for you. Number 2, we're going to play off the verb "sense," as in sensing. You're going to begin your response with, "No, I'm only sensing." "No, I'm only sensing." And number 3, you're going to take whatever they said and flip it on them using that verb. For example, if they make a bad joke and they say, "It's just a joke." 'Joke, don't be so sensitive,' you're gonna respond, 'No, I'm only sensing you're not that funny.' If they make an inappropriate comment and they say, 'Listen, just take it easy, don't be so sensitive,' you're going to respond, 'No, I'm only sensing we have a different idea of what's okay to say out loud.' Once you flip it back on them and serve it to them, you're the one that looks calm and in control. And that's how to respond when somebody calls you too sensitive. So try that. Follow me.