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How to Respond to Gaslighting

Name: How to Respond to Gaslighting
Uploaded: 2024-09-21T02:10:22+00:00
Duration: 54 s
Channel: Shanli Liu, CPA, CTP
Description: In this instructional video, Shanli Liu, CPA, CTP, presents three concise, scripted responses to common gaslighting statements. The first script, "That's…

21 Sept 2024 · 1 min

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In this instructional video, Shanli Liu, CPA, CTP, presents three concise, scripted responses to common gaslighting statements. The first script, "That's what I heard," is used when the gaslighter denies a prior statement, prompting clarification without conceding. The second, "And I need someone who is helpful," reframes a demand for help into a strength‑based boundary, calling out the gaslighter's behavior. The third, "I do not imagine facts," counters accusations of imagination by firmly asserting the speaker's knowledge of reality. Liu explains why each response works, emphasizes maintaining a position of strength, and encourages viewers to practice the techniques to protect themselves from manipulation.

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How to respond to gaslighting. Number 1, if they respond, "I never said that," or "That's not what I said," instead of saying, "Yes, you did," or "Then tell me what you said," you're going to slowly respond, "That's what I heard." Period. "That's what I heard." It invites them to clarify, but it doesn't allow them to flip. Number 2, if they say, "You need help," you're going to calmly respond, "And I need someone who is helpful." I need someone who is helpful. It works because it turns the tables to call out their behavior and does it from a position of strength. And number 3, if they say, you're imagining things, you will assertively respond, I do not imagine facts. I do not imagine facts. What you're saying is, I am standing my ground on what I know to be true. And that's how to respond to gaslighting. So try that and follow me.