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How to respond to name-calling

Name: How to respond to name-calling
Uploaded: 2025-03-06T12:01:09+00:00
Duration: 1 min 5 s
Channel: Shanli Liu, CPA, CTP
Description: In this instructional video, Shanli Liu, CPA, CTP, presents a concise three‑step method for handling verbal insults. Step 1 advises asking the offender…

6 Mar 2025 · 1 min

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In this instructional video, Shanli Liu, CPA, CTP, presents a concise three‑step method for handling verbal insults. Step 1 advises asking the offender to repeat the name they used, pretending you didn’t hear it, which isolates the word and forces the speaker to confront it. Step 2 involves echoing the exact name back in a confused tone (“I’m stupid,” “I’m an idiot”), which puts the aggressor on the spot. Step 3 recommends responding with a detached, non‑committal remark such as “Weird, okay” or “Huh, all right, thank you,” thereby stripping the insult of its power and discouraging future name‑calling. The video supplies specific phrasing, tone cues, and the psychological intent behind each move, encouraging viewers to adopt the approach to neutralize verbal aggression.

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How to respond when someone calls you a name. Number 1, instead of getting all upset and wanting to throw a name back at them, I want you to ask them to repeat whatever name that they called you. It doesn't matter that you heard them. You're going to pretend that you didn't. The point here is that we're going to make their words feel all alone, and you do that by asking questions like, "Can you repeat that?" or even, "What? I didn't catch that." Number 2, most people will walk away or say, "Never mind," if they're asked to repeat it, but if they do, we're going to take it a step further, and this time you're going to repeat exactly the name that they called you, but you're gonna do it in a state of confusion, like, "I'm stupid," or, "I'm an idiot." Number 3, at this point in time, it's not gonna be very fun for them. In fact, they're probably regretting that they said anything at all. If you're going to respond, you're gonna do it with a sense of like you don't get it. For example, "Weird, okay," or, "That's odd," or even, "Huh, all right, thank you." What you're doing is taking the power away from the response that they were looking for, and that's how to make sure they never call you a name again. So try that and follow me.